छोटी सी आशा hope opportunities?

What comes to mind on looking at this photo.

This is common sight in many villages in my area. I don’t know about cities.

First thought is about role of women in our soceity. Are women or girls meant for such household activities only that too enclosed within four walls?Often we heard the word stereotype? Are role of women is being stereotyped?When i went to my maternal ancestral village I whitney stimulus witness similar seen seen similar seen daughters of one of my relative don’t go to school. I tried to inquire. But didn’t get any convincing answer. Girls told parents dont allow. But if boys can go to college, then why girls can’t. From outside it looks easy to comment on this situation. Such situations varry from village to villages or type of social culture.I relate once incident of my life. My sister has to go some college in city, she was earlier studying in Kendriya Vidyalaya IITKANPUR. It was late in afternoon she didn’t returned home yet. I began to have high pace of heart beats. When i couldn’t control or bear it further I rushed to get any vehicle at iit gate to go to city. It was almost 14 km. When i was standing at bada chaoraha our iit bus was coming from phoolbagh side. There i saw my sister sitting in bus. Immediately tears started rolling down from each of us i think. When i boarded bus there was nothing to convey verbally. Only tears conveyed. She was asking so many questions. I was too but my sight was little solace for her in comparison to tension she might have undergone mentally. Eve teasing is common phenomena. Even within school or within class students face it. But going school 15 km away from home, sometimes becomes troublesome. This incident was my personal in 1983 or 84 while i was residing in a city like Kanpur.In that village i was talking about was far from main road that connected Hardoi City to sandi. From that road we had to walk through agricultural fields i don’t know how many km. But must be 5 km. One of my mausi residing in that village was teacher in a primary school. She used to walk daily to go to school in that village on road where we used to drop from bus at mainroad. Her brothers too were teachers but in city. I don’t know if there was any middle school nearby. I didn’t hear. But now time changed. There must be high school. But girls had to go higher education. After plus two. Since transpost facility is not proper or upto requirement of the village thus girls are forced to not to attend. Often social norms do force for early marriage of girls as soon they attain age of 17 or 18. Thus thought goes if girls go to school college and something happens how they will be married.Now here comes attitude of males in soceity. Male dominated society? Even women of houses too look for well mannered girls as bride for their boys. Some sort of incident happens in college with girls first thing spreads is the character assassination of that girl. In such cases soceity have double standards. Soceity at large ignore any characterless acts of boys. Boys or men can rape or pass comments or do eve teasing. But when girls reply or does teasing of boys they are labeled as characterless. I remember one incident at Kanpur. Three sister hanged themselves. One TV reporte asked few neighbours about girls. One boy said they were well behaved girls. They always walked with their eyes downward. वे हमेशा आँखें नीची रख कर ही चलती थी। मतलब लडकियों को आंखे निची रखना चाहिए? अगर गली मोहल्ले मे लडकियां आँख उठा कर चलती हैं तो ही वे सभ्य हैं सुशील हैं और लड़के छेड़ छाड़ करते ही रहेंगे।Now this kind of standards are set for behaviour of girls.Many girls living in villages or semi urban area do not have ample opportunities So that they can utilize their talents either in education or in sports. I may be wrong but i will be happy to know that i am wrong. Distance of educational institutions from residence, eve teasing by men, poverty, social pressure, pressure on parents of getting their daughters married are few reasons that girls are not able to come out openly. Often gender bias on issue such as daughters ought to learn basic household works -cooking food, cleaning home, caretaking og domestic animals, often collecting wood for fuel, helping men in tending agricultural fields are all deputed to girls-women. Saying no to sex with husbands is out of their dreams. Taking care of small kids is unwritten law of homes. Pregnancy is another task handled singlehandedly by women. Sometimes talking on contraceptive is a taboo. Even if they wish to take up this issue with their husbands is a taboo. Otherwise they will be labeled or questioned about character? Or virginity? That is another big issue.I have not seen shops in villages(atleast in my area) where women can go buy contraceptives. 30 years back there was one shop in that village now in 2019 i saw few more. But women buying contraceptives is a distant dream. Even many times i too feel embraced to go shop for buying condom. Now a days medicine shops have started employing girls in their shops. I feel ashamed to go to those shops to buy condoms.Such situations force me to think about real problems faced by our women folks in villages.Situation in slums in metro cities is not better too. Poverty is foremost problem for any social reforms.Pad man was a film. But real problem still looms large. But still i can’t say situation is bad in every area. Sanitory napkins are being made available througj schools? If so then good. But as i was telling earlier girls dont attend schools or those who are school dropouts how come they have access to these napkins. Anganwadi Balwadi or gram sevika or ASHAA ANMs etc can play large role. But that requires huge pressure on govt to strengthen infrastructure. Problem is of dedication. There is need of govt worker who can do their jobs with dedication and in full earnest.My DREAM is to have Aganwadi PHC in every village, each and every hamlet must be covered by health educatuon and social welfare schemes.

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Gaurang Katyayan misra

I am nobody on this vast globe. trying to search for my relevance for existence. Trying to read boundaries.. how to demolish them? want to walk on path of wisdom.. such as vivekananda, Ram, Krishna, Meera, kabir, Sankaracharya, rani chennama, ahilyabai holkar, Laxmi bai, umrao jaan, Rai praveen, Chanakya, SitaRam Raju, Shiva ji, lachit burfukan, Sankar Dev, list is endless

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