The #Diva- one & only #SitaraDevi ji #nrityasamragyi; #Queen of #kathak

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The moment you see Sitara Devi ji here in every frame the bright spirit comes alive.

Not only for women’s day but for my respect and remembrance I thought to “google” some images of our great Artist. From thousands of images I could select few and copied and pasted here. sitara3

I wish i can write a small booklet on her. Each frame tells a story. That story I will imagine and try to write  in my way. But for now, on women’s day, she is the true symbol to pay respect towards her (an untiring spirit of a woman).

I had seen her programs on Doordarshan all black and white broadcast from Lucknow Doordarshan Kendra during 1980s. I wish all are available in doordarshan archives? Similar programs of GopiKrishna were also telecasted.

I am not the only one who is in awe of her. The famous Dance critic writer Sunil Kothari said about her “Sitara was exceptionally talented. Full of energy and infectious spirit, her dance cast a spell on audiences, not for the nazakat (delicacy) and khubsoorti (beauty) the Lucknow gharana was known for, but for her electrifying Kathak. Sitara’s endearing way of speaking to the audience, be it in Motihari village in Bihar, or Carnegie Hall in New York, won her the affection of connoisseurs and lay people. She was a law unto herself.?       These words sum up about her in little.

The moment Sitara Devi ji used to come on stage, whole of stage seemed to be electrified.

Although SitaraDevi ji hailed from a Brahmin family, where it was a social stigma on dancing by girls of such families. But due to encouragement from her Father and guru Pt Sukhdev Maharaj, she got opportunity to learn Kathak Dance from her elder sisters Tara ji, who was mother of Natraj GopiKrishna ji. Another elder sister was Alakhnanda ji who was also a famous kathak performer of her time. I think she died nearly in 1984 ??? i dont remember exact year. But when I went to BHU to appear in an examination there i had read in a news paper that Alakhnanda ji was seriously ill and ailing in a hospital. Since I had gone to BHU to appear in an examination and i could imagine how my parents and relatives could have reacted had I requested them to take me to that hospital just to see Alakhnanda ji?? that is situation in our society. Then imagine what hardship these ladies, these legendary stars, had to face during their childhood in 1920s or 1930s?

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Eldest sister of SitaraDevi ji Smt Alaknanda Devi ji
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Sitara Devi ji was a permanent star attendance at most famous Holi Dhamal of RK Studio,.

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Has anyone thought that a  LP record of a classical dancer will be brought out in those times? HMV might have thought of her popularity among people of India for her singing and dancing capabilities.

Sitara Ji always loved the brighter side of life, i think that shows her positive attitude towards life. the zeal to live life to its fullest.sit1  sit6

sit10Dilip saheb considered as her sister? She was married to the husband of his sister, thus by our indian traditions She was his sister? we had great traditions in India. Till recently Sitara ji visited Dilip Kumar saheb ji on Rakhsabandhan, to tie Rakhi.

Sitara ji married at her own terms. Sitara Devi was married to Nazir Ahmed Khan then to K. Asif and then to Pratap Barot. K Asif was brother of wife of Nazir Ahmed Khan.

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In this age Dr Sitara Devi ji came up on stage and people sought her blessings, at Sur Singar Sansad. Here daughter of Sitara Devi Ji Smt JayantiMala presented her dance. After Sitara Devi ji and Gopi Krishna ji there is no one who can bear the Torch of Banaras Gharana of Kathak. I mean that charm and majesty which these star dancers carried will be missed.

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Each and every frame depicts her as lively persona

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few of videos are in other blog 

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This particular image is enough to describe her untiring spirit and ever ready to dance. She was on wheel chair and still performed on stage at a function organised in memory of women empowerment !!! is it not a symbol of untiring spirit.

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https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/uEgMMffzZns

http://www.thehindu.com/features/friday-review/sitara-devi-obituary/article6639595.ece

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sitara_Devi

CHILD ABUSE at home : Child sexual abuse, what can we call it?

While sleeping i felt something unusual, But deep in sleep i could not figure it out. I felt a human body beside me. Thus clinging to that warm body I slept again. Now i know how dangerous is to fall asleep.

After applying his liquid kisses on me, he took me into tight embrace. I also put my arms around him. He was so pleased by this that again he gave me liquid kisses. He uses his tongue to lick my cheeks. Putting his lips on my cheeks, sucked my cheeks tightly. He then as if assuring me tried to caress all over my head, my body and planted kiss on my forehead.

After that whenever i felt something i would move. He immediately took me into his grip of arms. Presented kisses as if, saying don’t worry, everything is ok. For assurance i had bounty of his liquid kisses on me. He many times would say “good child”.

I had picked up habit of imitating him. Whatever he did i did try to do same. He used to kiss on my forehead, cheeks, neck, eyes. i also tried to cling to him and try to kiss him on his chest and his cheeks. When he moved his body towards me then i kissed him. I also imitated him by placing my arms around him. All this happened in dark nights on bed.

he used to kiss me all over. His chest was over my mouth suddenly his nipples were touching  my mouth, at that moment my lips were on his nipple. He liked it. he then moved close towards me and adjusted me so that my mouth be placed on his chest, So that my lips touch his nipples. As soon as his nipples came in contact of my lips, I tried to firm up my lips as if I tried to kiss. He liked it. Actually he was trying to adjust himself so that I can do it again and again on him. He gone mad at that time with lots of groaning moaning sounds. He madly kissed me again and again. He just ate my cheeks as if he will puncture my cheeks. My cheeks were full of his saliva. He rolled his warm tongue all over my cheeks. He sucked cheeks strongly. Whole of my cheeks he pulled by making vacuum inside his mouth. as if sucking all my cheek.

When i tried to suck his nipple he laughed. I heard him laugh in that darkness. My ears were full of thumping sounds of his heart. His chest was so close to my face. He was taller and huge well built guy.

After I slept i didn’t know what happened? when he came? when he untied his cloths?. But when he placed his leg on me then the touch of his skin indicated that he is without cloths. he placed his leg on me as if keeping me under his control.

When he placed his leg on me, my hand touched his thighs. he lifted his leg and adjusted himself so that my hand touch him where both of his leg meet. He pressed his arms around me tightly, he pushed me down and funny thing was that he presented many kisses.

Again while sleeping in his arms encircling me, suddenly some movements woke me up. my hand found that he had loosened his loin cloth and he was rubbing himself against my body. there it was, a very hard erect thing. He might have also known that i have woken-up so he again encircled me with his strong arms and pulled towards his chest and tried to assure with soft kisses and started licking me. he guided my hand and placed it around that pulpy tube like organ. he guided my palm to grip it and make movements. By All that he meant as to tell me what to do??

My palm touched that stiff, erect hard thing. what was it? A hard fleshy thing. He started moaning. suddenly he took me into his tight grip, i thought he will break my bones. But he did not forget to put liquid kisses. I was made to turn halfway, now i was completely in his grip. He started rubbing vigorously his belly against me. I think he knew that i loved his liquid kisses, thus whenever i tried to stop him, softening his grips he kissed me.

with tightened arms around me, he thrust his belly on me with more force. when i tried to move he would just soften his arms. when i again start sleeping he would again do something.  All few days all this touching thing went on.

That day also he stayed in my house. Strangely i was sleeping, something happened, since by now i had become habitual of this body touching and tight grips. thus thinking that something happening as usual, carelessly i just put my arms also around him and slept.

I felt some pressure, he kissed me. He was partly naked. i felt his bare chest at my back.

when he applied force that time i might have woken up, he then forcefully took me into arms and was thrusting his belly into my back.  He had trapped me in his arms so i could not move freely, he caressed all over my body. he surveyed my back. When he forcefully pressed his belly into my back i was shocked. there he had applied his saliva, at that moment when he thrust his organ into me and When his raw flesh (devil) touched on that spot i was blown into pieces. He thrust his fly. his organ was trying to pierce into me. He was halfway through. At that moment With full force I moved a little and came out of bed. That night changed me for forever.

This incident brought some of the previous memories to fore, which i had forgotten.

These happened when i was i think 6 or 7 years old.

one dark night I woke-up due to some unknown sensation in my lower part, I found one of my cousin lying beside me. He was much elder to me. he was doing some movements holding me.  he guided my arm to hold in grip a slippery tube like bulbous structure. Holding my hand he made to do some to and fro movements with speed. After some time some strong smashing jerks felt by my hand. I could not see anything since it was a darkest night, i have ever known.

then he lifted and took me somewhere to another place. When he placed me on a bed i found there was another naked body.  i felt his skin.  It was a big body and well built. He took me into his arms, gently. Despite of a tough body he was gentle enough to kiss me several times. This was amazing and strange kiss i ever had. i never had such type of kiss ever before.

He adjusted me beside him on his bed. My cousin who brought me on that bed went back. This naked BIG body kept his arms around me as if i am a petite little chicken who has to be treated softly. he made me to cling to his body with his strong big arms. Immediately He made my left palm to hold something. It was much more magnificent than my cousin’s organ, hard, bulbous, smooth silky, wet, and erect with warmth. It also had some jerky motion within it. Only missing thing was that i could not see it. There was complete darkness of night. nothing was visible. He was holding me in arms while offering kisses. Body was wet with sweat. But that thing was much more longer than my palm. While i was guessing what this long thing is? He squeezed me, climbed on me, I felt crushed under his huge body and he was doing all his jumping motion on me, i wanted to run out. he held me strongly under his body. He was strong built… I tried to run out of the cot.   to that he said what happened my child? where are you going?

he was a tenant in my grandmother’s house. That night my grandmother was not at home. she had gone to attend a pooja at neighbour’s house which usually they do in the NAVRATRI days. Devi Jagran.

Then whenever i felt something unusual thing while sleeping i found my cousin doing something at my front. While taking nap in summer afternoons, he used to come on bed and lay beside me. I was staying alone with grandmother during summer holidays. In afternoons time, Everybody would sleep. He wore just a cloth around his waist. so he was completely naked. encircling my body with his hand around me. he would make my hand to take his organ in grip and to do some movement over it.

Was this not child molestation?  where i could have complained? these persons were known to me, trusted persons.

That person who recently did this to me was much Elder to me.

He used to stay in our house whenever he used to go city for his job. He always got chance to stay at our house. By touching and praising he made my body accustomed to his TOUCH. then slowly he had graduated on to sneaking into my bed at Nights. Then he made me feel his kisses, liquid and warm kisses, gradually he introduced me to his bare body, his strong arms, He used to encircle me in his tight grip of arms.

Even after so many years of my life those acts and touch and that piercing act,  all that just dont leave me, they come all over again to me. What I can do?

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Monolithic bass relief depicting Siva

The Monolithic Bas Relief Depicting Shiva, was found in Parel in October, 1931 when road was being dug from Parel to Shivadi.

Since then it was enshrined in premises of BARADEVI Temple at Parel Village.

This beautiful image of about 3.06 meters height, depicts seven forms- SAPTAMURTI OF LORD SHIVA. Seven mudras are depicted around one central figure of Shiv

Central one is in Sthanaka Mudra with right hand in Abhaya Mudra and left hand holds Beejaphala.

Not much of ornamentation is depicted except of Karna Kundalas and necklace, central image is shown with plain Antariya. An elaborate Jata Mukuta adorns on the head. This image is surrounded by five Ganas playing musical instruments like Harpoon, Flute etc. stylistically and iconographically.

This sculpture dates to fifth to sixth century AD.

An excellent cast of this image is kept at Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj Vastu Sangrahalaya, Mumbai.

Image was declared as Nationally Protected Monument by The Archaeological Survey of India vide notification No. 2/3/75-M, dated 28 March 1985. N-MH-M5.

(Above information in obtained from the text engraved in Gold on Black stone fixed on a wall at site, by The Archaeological Survey of India, Mumbai, in May 2012.)

Amorous Couple, late 11th century India: Madhya Pradesh, 1001-1100 Sandstone 26-1/6 x 14 in. (66.5 x 35.6 cm) The Norton Simon Foundation F.1972.19.4.S
Amorous Couple, late 11th century India: Madhya Pradesh, 1001-1100 Sandstone 26-1/6 x 14 in. (66.5 x 35.6 cm) The Norton Simon Foundation F.1972.19.4.S

Durga Bhabhi, great freedom fighter

images (38)Since school days we knew name-Durga Bhabhi. i don’t remember if it was in our school text book or heard from our elders. But as I grew up through print media and later through doordarshan got to know about her more. She was most courageous lady among our freedom fighters of that time.

There were many freedom fighters, but why did she being a woman jumped into such hard life. even though she was married and had a son, still she left everything and sacrificed everything-Happiness for making our Bharat Mata  Azad, or independenceC_xVptiUQAEaolX-500x792

What made her to accept hardships of life, or what inspired her to sacrifice everything of her life. Greatest thing is that she didn’t thought about her son?

normally what we see is that mothers often sacrifice everything for children. we find opposite in Durga Bhabhi. Born as Durgawati devi.

दुर्गा भाभी का जन्म सात अक्टूबर 1902 को शहजादपुर ग्राम अब कौशाम्बी जिला में पंडित बांके बिहारी के यहां हुआ.  she was married to  Bhagwati Charan Vohra, a member of  Hindustan Socialist Republican Association (HSRA). Other members of HSRA referred to her as Bhabhi (elder brother’s wife) thus she became to know as “Durga Bhabhi” in Indian revolutionary circles.

Sushila Didishe was also became active member of   Naujawan Bharat Sabha and worked together with other associate of her husband.

two days after killing Saunders, on 19 December 1928, they planned to catch train from Lahore for Bathinda en route to Howrah early next morning. She posed as wife of Bhagat Singh and put her son Sachin in his lap.

Rajguru carried their luggage as their servant. Bhagat Singh had shaved off his beard and cut his hair short on previous day and dressed in Western attire.

When Bhagat Singh and Sukhdev came to her house on night of 19 December 1928, Sukhdev introduced Bhagat Singh as a new friend. Devi could not recognise Bhagat Singh at all. Then Sukhdev told Devi the truth and said that if Devi could not recognise Bhagat Singh in his changed clean-shaved appearance despite knowing him well, surely the police would not recognise him as they would be looking for a bearded Sikh. They left the house early the next morning. At the station, Bhagat Singh, with his concealed identity, bought three tickets to Cawnpore (Kanpur) two first-class tickets for Devi and himself and a third class one for Rajguru. Both men had loaded revolvers with them to deal with any unanticipated incident. They avoided raising the suspicions of the police and boarded the train. Breaking the journey at Kanpur, they boarded a train for Lucknow since the CID at Howrah railway station usually scrutinised passengers on the direct train from Lahore. At Lucknow, Rajguru left separately for Benares while Bhagat Singh, Devi and the infant went to Howrah. Devi returned to Lahore a few days later with her infant child. (from wiki)

But thing is while whole journey there was risk involved, that she dared to take. knowing that if caught police could have killed on spot? possibility was there. Thus Being a lady and a mother she plunged herself into fire, that was a great thing. shows her determination commitment towards freedom struggle.

9 अक्टूबर 1930 को दुर्गा भाभी ने गवर्नर हैली पर गोली चला दी थी जिसमें गवर्नर हैली तो बच गया लेकिन सैनिक अधिकारी टेलर घायल हो गया। मुंबई के पुलिस कमिश्नर को भी दुर्गा भाभी ने गोली मारी थी जिसके परिणाम स्वरूप अंग्रेज पुलिस इनके पीछे पड़ गई। मुंबई के एक फ्लैट से दुर्गा भाभी व साथी यशपाल को गिरफ्तार कर लिया गया। दुर्गा भाभी का काम साथी क्रांतिकारियों के लिए राजस्थान से पिस्तौल लाना व ले जाना था। चंद्रशेखर आजाद ने अंग्रेजों से लड़ते वक्त जिस पिस्तौल से खुद को गोली मारी थी उसे दुर्गा भाभी ने ही लाकर उनको दी थी। उस समय भी दुर्गा भाभी उनके साथ ही थीं। उन्होंने पिस्तौल चलाने की ट्रेनिंग लाहौर व कानपुर में ली थी।

भगत सिंह व बटुकेश्वर दत्त जब केंद्रीय असेंबली में बम फेंकने जाने लगे तो दुर्गा भाभी व सुशीला मोहन ने अपने रक्त से दोनों लोगों को तिलक लगाकर विदा किया था। असेंबली में बम फेंकने के बाद इन लोगों को गिरफ्तार कर लिया गया तथा फांसी दे दी गई।

साथी क्रांतिकारियों के शहीद हो जाने के बाद दुर्गा भाभी एकदम अकेली पड़ गई। वह अपने पांच वर्षीय पुत्र शचींद्र को शिक्षा दिलाने की व्यवस्था करने के उद्देश्य से वह साहस कर दिल्ली चली गई। जहां पर पुलिस उन्हें बराबर परेशान करती रहीं। दुर्गा भाभी उसके बाद दिल्ली से लाहौर चली गई, जहां पर पुलिस ने उन्हें गिरफ्तार कर लिया और तीन वर्ष तक नजरबंद रखा। फरारी, गिरफ्तारी व रिहाई का यह सिलसिला 1931 से 1935 तक चलता रहा। अंत में लाहौर से जिलाबदर किए जाने के बाद 1935 में गाजियाबाद में प्यारेलाल कन्या विद्यालय में अध्यापिका की नौकरी करने लगी और कुछ समय बाद पुन: दिल्ली चली गई और कांग्रेस में काम करने लगीं। कांग्रेस का जीवन रास न आने के कारण उन्होंने 1937 में छोड़ दिया। 1939 में इन्होंने मद्रास जाकर मारिया मांटेसरी से मांटेसरी पद्धति का प्रशिक्षण durgawati-fighter-freedom-bhabhi-october-october-revolutionary_a438cd46-03ab-11e6-859d-3d3bb55f49d3लिया तथा 1940 में लखनऊ में कैंट रोड के (नजीराबाद) एक निजी मकान में सिर्फ पांच बच्चों के साथ मांटेसरी विद्यालय खोला। आज भी यह विद्यालय लखनऊ में मांटेसरी इंटर कालेज के नाम से जाना जाता है। 14 अक्टूबर 1999 को गाजियाबाद में उन्होंने सबसे नाता तोड़ते हुए इस दुनिया से अलविदा कर लिया।

Unlike other freedom fighters, after Indian independence, Durga started  living as a common citizen in quiet anonymity and exclusion in Ghaziabad. She later opened a school for poor children in Lucknow.

Durga died in Ghaziabad  on 15 October 1999 at the age of 92. today when I hear word freedom fighter and getting pension from Govt then i think how great she-Durga ji was? i don’t know whether she was getting any pension or support from Govt. 22308571_1491648694216787_2676064535863627096_n

तिलोत्तमा? Tillottama, beauty personified

अभी दरवाजे पर घण्टी बजी देखा तो हमारे पड़ोसी प्रोफ़ेसर थे। काफ़ी तमतमाये हुए थे। पूछा कि चाभी 🔑 चाबी दे कर गईं है। मतलब उनकी पत्नी। हमने तुरन्त कहा अन्दर आईए बैठिए। सारा क्रोध का बांध टूटने लगा। एक घंटे से हम इंतज़ार कर रहे हैं चाभी भी नहीं दी और फोन भी नहीं किया। तभी हमारी पड़ोसन आ गईं। हमारी जान वापस आ गई। यही लग रहा था कि पता नहीं आज क्या महाभारत होगी। पिछले साल भी यही हुआ था।

पड़ोसन आईं तो ऐसा लगा हमारे घर किसी देवी का पदार्पण आगमन हुआ। नवरात्रि का आगमन कल से हो रहा है। उनका स्वरूप ही ऐसा था। पता नहीं शब्दों मे विवरण कैसे करूँ।

विशाल मस्तक प्रस्तर पर विशाल लाल बिन्दी। शिवानी जी की कहानियों की कोई नायिका सी। उनसे अच्छा तो हम नहीं विवरण कर सकते।

माथे पर बड़ी सी बिन्दी देवी रूप का ही एहसास करा रही थी। चूकि वे माँ शारदा के आश्रम गयी थीं। बंगाली स्वेत साड़ी लाल बॉडर वाली पारंपरिक साड़ी। फूलों से सुसज्जित केश विन्यास, गजरा, जूडा, वेणी श्रिंगार से परिपूर्ण। सभी एकदम सटीक पूरे मापदंडों के सहित।

आते ही ढेर सारा सामान रखा। एक बड़ी माँ शारदा की मूर्ति हर प्रतियोगिता मे अव्वल आने के लिए। देवी महात्म्य का वाचन तथा संबधित गायन उन्होंने किया था। माँ सरस्वती की कृपा है उनपर। गला स्वर सभी उत्तम। रबीन्द्र सँगीत मे माहिर हैं।

घर आते ही यह हो गया। पती गुस्से से भरे हुए थे। तमतमाते घर चले गये हमने बहुत कहा कि चाय पीकर जाइये। नही सुना उन्होंने।

पत्नी बैठी हमारी पत्नी से बात कर रहीं थीं। हमे चिन्ता थी कि ए जल्दी से जाएं और पती को सम्भालें। चाय वगैरह मान मनुहार करें।

उनकी स्थिति को कैसे शब्दों मे बताएँ। उन्होंने खुद बोला छोड़ो हमारी किस्मत ही ऐसी मिली है।

सर्वगुण सम्पन्न होने पर भी इतना दुख भरा जीवन मिला उनको।

देखने पर कहीं से कोई एक भी अवगुण नहीं बता सकता। फिर भी इतना दुख? भगवान ने यहां गल्ती की है। ऎसा मेरा मानना है।

पिछले साल हुआ यह था कि प्रोफ़ेसर साहब घर पर थे और उनकी पत्नी थोड़ी देर से आश्रम लौटी थीं। काफी देर से दरवाजा खुलवाने की चेष्टा कर रहीं होंगी। हमे तुछ आहट लग रही थी। हम टीवी देख रहे थे कमरे का दरवाज़ा जीने मे ही खुलता है काफ़ी देर तक इंतजार के बाद हमने पत्नी से बोला कि देखो तो। दरवाज़ा खुलना था आँसुओं का बाँध टूट पड़ा। उन्होंने बताया कि बहुत देर से दरवाजा खुलवाने का प्रयास कर रहीं है। हमारी पत्नी ने दरवाज़ा खुलवाने का प्रयास किया। उन्होंने ने अंदर से जवाब दिया कि बहुत हुआ ए जाएँ कही भी जाएँ घर में नहीं आना है। पुलिस मे जाएँ कहीं भी जाएँ। अब संस्कार मर्यादाओं से पत्नी बंधी होने के कारण जोर से रुदन भी नहीं कर पा रहीं थी।

संस्कार की बेडियाँ भी अज़ीब होती हैं। भारतीय परिवारों मे महिलाएँ ही वहन करती हैं और इनकी वजह से ही भारतीय समाज भारतीय संस्कृति जीवित है।

हमारी पड़ोसन को संतान नहीं है। बाँझ शब्द एक नरक से बडा अभिशाप है भारतीय महिलाओं के लिए। शादी के बाद उनकी सास ने तो जैसे नाता एकदम तोड दिया। वे बहू को घर मे देखना ही नहीं चाहती। बेटे पर दबाव डालती होंगी दूसरी शादी के लिए। जायदाद भी बोलती होंगी कि बहू के नाम नहीं होनी चाहिए।

प्रोफ़ेसर साहब भी कई बार परेशान होते होंगे। ईलाज भी करवा चुके है। पर बच्चा न होने पर ज्यादातर दोष बहू पर ही मढा जाता है।

बहुत नही पर खास खानदान से सम्बंधित है दोनो लोग। उनके परिवार खानदान की दुर्गा पूजा परंपरा का काफी मान है।

उज्वल वर्ण, संगीत मे पारंगत, साजसज्जा वस्त्र परिधान मे उच्च कोटि के चुनाव से सभी लोग देवी स्वरूपा ही मानेंगे। पर निजी जीवन मे इतना दुख लेकर कैसे मन लगाती होंगी।

दुर्गा पूजा पर स्त्री शक्ति को नमन

छोटी सी आशा hope opportunities?

What comes to mind on looking at this photo.

This is common sight in many villages in my area. I don’t know about cities.

First thought is about role of women in our soceity. Are women or girls meant for such household activities only that too enclosed within four walls?Often we heard the word stereotype? Are role of women is being stereotyped?When i went to my maternal ancestral village I whitney stimulus witness similar seen seen similar seen daughters of one of my relative don’t go to school. I tried to inquire. But didn’t get any convincing answer. Girls told parents dont allow. But if boys can go to college, then why girls can’t. From outside it looks easy to comment on this situation. Such situations varry from village to villages or type of social culture.I relate once incident of my life. My sister has to go some college in city, she was earlier studying in Kendriya Vidyalaya IITKANPUR. It was late in afternoon she didn’t returned home yet. I began to have high pace of heart beats. When i couldn’t control or bear it further I rushed to get any vehicle at iit gate to go to city. It was almost 14 km. When i was standing at bada chaoraha our iit bus was coming from phoolbagh side. There i saw my sister sitting in bus. Immediately tears started rolling down from each of us i think. When i boarded bus there was nothing to convey verbally. Only tears conveyed. She was asking so many questions. I was too but my sight was little solace for her in comparison to tension she might have undergone mentally. Eve teasing is common phenomena. Even within school or within class students face it. But going school 15 km away from home, sometimes becomes troublesome. This incident was my personal in 1983 or 84 while i was residing in a city like Kanpur.In that village i was talking about was far from main road that connected Hardoi City to sandi. From that road we had to walk through agricultural fields i don’t know how many km. But must be 5 km. One of my mausi residing in that village was teacher in a primary school. She used to walk daily to go to school in that village on road where we used to drop from bus at mainroad. Her brothers too were teachers but in city. I don’t know if there was any middle school nearby. I didn’t hear. But now time changed. There must be high school. But girls had to go higher education. After plus two. Since transpost facility is not proper or upto requirement of the village thus girls are forced to not to attend. Often social norms do force for early marriage of girls as soon they attain age of 17 or 18. Thus thought goes if girls go to school college and something happens how they will be married.Now here comes attitude of males in soceity. Male dominated society? Even women of houses too look for well mannered girls as bride for their boys. Some sort of incident happens in college with girls first thing spreads is the character assassination of that girl. In such cases soceity have double standards. Soceity at large ignore any characterless acts of boys. Boys or men can rape or pass comments or do eve teasing. But when girls reply or does teasing of boys they are labeled as characterless. I remember one incident at Kanpur. Three sister hanged themselves. One TV reporte asked few neighbours about girls. One boy said they were well behaved girls. They always walked with their eyes downward. वे हमेशा आँखें नीची रख कर ही चलती थी। मतलब लडकियों को आंखे निची रखना चाहिए? अगर गली मोहल्ले मे लडकियां आँख उठा कर चलती हैं तो ही वे सभ्य हैं सुशील हैं और लड़के छेड़ छाड़ करते ही रहेंगे।Now this kind of standards are set for behaviour of girls.Many girls living in villages or semi urban area do not have ample opportunities So that they can utilize their talents either in education or in sports. I may be wrong but i will be happy to know that i am wrong. Distance of educational institutions from residence, eve teasing by men, poverty, social pressure, pressure on parents of getting their daughters married are few reasons that girls are not able to come out openly. Often gender bias on issue such as daughters ought to learn basic household works -cooking food, cleaning home, caretaking og domestic animals, often collecting wood for fuel, helping men in tending agricultural fields are all deputed to girls-women. Saying no to sex with husbands is out of their dreams. Taking care of small kids is unwritten law of homes. Pregnancy is another task handled singlehandedly by women. Sometimes talking on contraceptive is a taboo. Even if they wish to take up this issue with their husbands is a taboo. Otherwise they will be labeled or questioned about character? Or virginity? That is another big issue.I have not seen shops in villages(atleast in my area) where women can go buy contraceptives. 30 years back there was one shop in that village now in 2019 i saw few more. But women buying contraceptives is a distant dream. Even many times i too feel embraced to go shop for buying condom. Now a days medicine shops have started employing girls in their shops. I feel ashamed to go to those shops to buy condoms.Such situations force me to think about real problems faced by our women folks in villages.Situation in slums in metro cities is not better too. Poverty is foremost problem for any social reforms.Pad man was a film. But real problem still looms large. But still i can’t say situation is bad in every area. Sanitory napkins are being made available througj schools? If so then good. But as i was telling earlier girls dont attend schools or those who are school dropouts how come they have access to these napkins. Anganwadi Balwadi or gram sevika or ASHAA ANMs etc can play large role. But that requires huge pressure on govt to strengthen infrastructure. Problem is of dedication. There is need of govt worker who can do their jobs with dedication and in full earnest.My DREAM is to have Aganwadi PHC in every village, each and every hamlet must be covered by health educatuon and social welfare schemes.

Indian Sculpture (couple)

 

 

Doors Of India