The #Diva- one & only #SitaraDevi ji #nrityasamragyi; #Queen of #kathak


The moment you see at Sitara Devi ji here in every frame the bright spirit comes alive.

Not only for women’s day but for my respect and remembrance I thought to “google” (as this word has become synonym for search) some of the images of our great star. From those thousands pics I selected and copied few pictures available and pasted here. sitara3

I wish i can write a small booklet on her. (i will try on net) each frame tells a story thus that story I will imagine and try to write  in my way. But for now, on women’s day, she is the true symbol to pay respect towards her (an untirirng spirit of a woman).

I had seen her many programs on Doordarshan all black and white broadcast from Lucknow Doordarshan Kendra during 1980s. I wish all are available in doordarshan archives? Similar programs of GopiKrishna were also telecasted.

I am not the only one who is in awe of her. The famous Dance critic writer Sunil Kothari said about her “Sitara was exceptionally talented. Full of energy and infectious spirit, her dance cast a spell on audiences, not for the nazakat (delicacy) and khubsoorti (beauty) the Lucknow gharana was known for, but for her electrifying Kathak. Sitara’s endearing way of speaking to the audience, be it in Motihari village in Bihar, or Carnegie Hall in New York, won her the affection of connoisseurs and lay people. She was a law unto herself.?       These words sumup abou ther in little.

The moment Sitara Devi ji used to come up on stage She used to electrify whole of stage.

Although SitaraDevi ji hailed from “Kathak family” and a Brahmin family, where it was a social stigma on dancing by girls of such families. But due to encouragement from her Father and guru Pt Sukhdev Maharaj she got opportunity to learn Kathak Dance from her elder sisters Tara ji, who was mother of Nritya Samrat GopiKrishna ji. Another elder sister was Alakhnanda ji who was also a famous kathak performer of her time. I think she died nearly in 1984 ??? i dont remember exact year. But when I went to BHU to appear in an examination there i had read a newsitem in a news paper that Alakhnanda ji was seriously ill and ailing in a hospital. Since I had gone to BHU to appear in an examination and i could imagine how my parents and relatives could have reacted had I requested them to take me to that hospital just to see Alakhnanda ji?? that is situation in our society. Then imagine what hardship these ladies, these legendry stars, had to face during their childhood in 1920s or 1930s?


Eldest sister of SitaraDevi ji Smt Alaknanda Devi ji
Sitara Devi ji was a permanent star attendance at most famous Holi Dhamal of RK Studio,.

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Has anyone thought that a LP record of a classical dancerimages (4) will be brought out in those times? HMV might have thought of her popularity among people of India for her singing and dancing capabilities.

Sitara Ji always loved the brighter side of life, i think that shows her postive attitude towards life. the zeal to live life to its fullest.sit1  sit6sit7

sit10Dilip saheb considered as her sister? She was married to the husband of his sister, thus by our indian traditions She was his sister? we had great traditions in India. Till recently Sitara ji visited Dilip Kumar saheb ji on Rakhsabandhan, to tie Rakhi.

Sitara ji married at her own terms. Sitara Devi was married to Nazir Ahmed Khan then to K. Asif and then to Pratap Barot. K Asif was brother of wife of Nazir Ahmed Khan.

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In this age Dr Sitara Devi ji came up on stage and people sought her blessings, at Sur Singar Sansad. Here daughter of Sitara Devi Ji Smt JayantiMala presented her dance. After Sitara Devi ji and Gopi Krishna ji there is no one who can bear the Torch of Banaras Gharana of Kathak. I mean that charm and majesty which these star dancers carried will be missed.

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Each and every frame depicts her as lively persona

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This particular image is enough to describe her untiring spirit and ever ready to dance. She was on wheel chair and still performed on stage at a function organised in memory of women empowerment !!! is it not a symbol of untiring spirit.



CHILD ABUSE at home : Child sexual abuse, what can we call it?

While sleeping i felt something unusual, But deep in sleep i could not figure it out. I felt a human body beside me. Thus clinging to that warm body I slept again. Now i know how it is dangerous to fall asleep.

He after applying his liquid kisses on me, tried to take me into his tight embrace. I also put my arms around him. He was so pleased by this that again he gave me his liquid kisses. He uses his tongue to lick my cheeks. Putting his lips on my cheeks, he sucks my cheeks tightly. He then as if assuring me tried to caress all over my head, my body and planted kiss on my forehead.

After that whenever i felt something i would move. He immediately took me into his grip of arms. Presented kisses as if, saying don’t worry, everything is ok. For assurance i had bounty of his liquid kisses on me. He many times would say “good child”.

I had picked up habit of imitating him. Whatever he did i did try to do same. He used to kiss on my forehead, cheeks, neck, eyes. i also tried to cling to him and try to kiss him on his chest and his cheeks. When he moved his body towards me then i kissed him. I also imitated him by placing my arms around him.

he was kissing me all over. His chest was over my mouth suddenly his nipples were touching  my mouth I tried to put lips on them. He liked it. he then moved close towards me and adjusted me so that my mouth be placed on his chest, So that my lips touch his nipples. As soon as his nipples came in contact if my lips I tried to firm up my lips as if I tried to kiss. He liked it. Actually he was trying to adjust himself so that I can do it again on him. He gone mad at that time with lots of groaning moaning sounds. He madly kissed me again and again. He just ate my cheeks as if he will puncture my cheeks. My cheeks were full of his saliva. He rolled his warm tongue all over my cheeks. He sucked cheeks strongly. Whole of my cheeks he pulled just like making vacuum inside his mouth.

When i tried to suck his nipple he laughed. I heard him laugh in that darkness. My ears were full of thumping sounds of my heart and his heart. His chest was so close to my face. He was taller and huge well built guy.

Then he placed his leg on me as if keeping me under his control. After I slept i didn’t know what happened? when he came? when he untied his cloths?. But when he placed his leg on me then the touch of his skin indicated that is without cloths.

When he placed his leg on me, my hand touched his thighs. he lifted his leg and adjusted himself so that my hand touch him where both of his leg meet. He pressed his arms around me tightly, he pushed me down and funny thing was that he presented many kisses.

Again while sleeping in this posture suddenly some movements woke me up. my hand found that he had loosened his loin cloth and he was rubbing himself against my body. there it was, a very hard erect thing. He might have also known that i have woken-up so he again encircled me with his strong arms and pulled towards his chest and tried to assure with soft kisses and started licking me. he guided my hand with his hand and placed it around that pulpy tube like organ. he guided my palm to grip it and make movements. By All that he meant as to tell me what to do??

My palm touched that stiff, erect hard thing. what was it? A hard fleshy thing. He started moaning. suddenly he took me into his tight grip OF ARMS as if i thought he will break my bones. But he did not forget his liquid kisses. I was made to turn halfway, now i was completely in his grip. He started rubbing vigorously his belly against me. I think he knew that i loved his liquid kisses, thus whenever i tried to stop him, softening his grips he kissed on me with his saliva kisses.

As he tightened his arms around me, he thrust his belly on me with more force. After that when i tried to move he would just soften his arms. when i again start sleeping he would again do something.  All few days all this touching thing went on.

That day also he stayed in my house. Strangely i was sleeping, something happened, since by now i had become habitual of this body touching and tight grips. thus thinking that something happening as usual, carelessly i just put my arms also around him and slept.

I felt some pressure, he kissed me. He was partly naked. i felt his bare chest at my back.

when he applied force that time i might have woken up, he then forcefully took me into arms and was thrusting his belly into my back.  He had trapped me in his arms so i could not move freely, he caressed all over my body. he surveyed my back. When he forcefully pressed his belly into my back i was shocked. there he had applied his saliva, at that moment when he thrust his organ into me and When his raw flesh (devil) touched on that spot i was blown into pieces. He thrust his fly. his organ was trying to pierce into me. He was halfway through. At that moment With full force I moved a little and came out of bed and failed his attempts.

That night changed me for forever.

This incident brought some of the previous memories to fore, which i had forgotten.

These happened when i was i think 6 or 7 years old.

one dark night I woke-up due to some unknown sensation in my lower part, I found one of my cousin lying beside me. He was much elder to me. he was doing some movements holding me.  he guided my arm to hold in grip a slippery tube like bulbous structure. Holding my hand he made to do some to and fro movements with speed. After some time some strong smashing jerks felt by my hand. I could not see anything since it was a darkest night, i have ever known.

then he lifted and took me somewhere to another place. When he placed me on that bed i found there was another a naked body.  i felt his skin.  It was a big body and well built. He took me into his arms, gently. Despite of a tough body he was gentle enough to kiss me several times. This was amazing and strange kiss i ever had. i never had such type of kiss ever before.

He adjusted me beside him on his bed. My cousin who brought me on that bed went back. This naked BIG body kept his arms around me as if i am a petite little chicken who has to be treated softly. he made me to cling to his body with his strong big arms. Immediately He made my left palm to hold something. It was much more magnificent than my cousin’s organ, hard, bulbous, smooth silky, wet, and erect with warmth. It also had some jerky motion within it. Only missing thing was that i could not see it. There was complete darkness of night. nothing was visible. He was holding me in arms while offering kisses. Body was wet with sweat. But that thing was much more longer than my palm. While i was guessing what this long thing is? He squeezed me, climbed on me, I felt crushed under his huge body and he was doing all his jumping motion on me, i wanted to run out. he held me strongly under his body. He was strong built… I tried to run out of the cot.   to that he said what happened my child? where are you going?

he was a tenant in my grandmother’s house. That night my grandmother was not at home. she had gone to attend a pooja at neighbour’s house which usually they do in the NAVRATRI days. Devi Jagran.

Then whenever i felt something unusual thing while sleeping i found my cousin doing something at my front. While taking nap in summer afternoons, he used to come on bed and lay beside me. I was staying alone with grandmother during summer holidays. In afternoons time, Everybody would sleep. He wore just a cloth around his waist. so he was completely naked. encircling my body with his hand around me. he would make my hand to take his organ in grip and to do some movement over it.

Was this not child molestation?  where i could have complained? these persons were known to me, trusted persons.

That person who recently did this to me was much Elder to me.

He used to stay in our house whenever he used to go city for his job. He always got chance to stay at our house. By touching and praising he made my body accustomed to his TOUCH. then slowly he had graduated on to sneaking into my bed at Nights. Then he made me feel his kisses, liquid and warm kisses, gradually he introduced me to his bare body, his strong arms, He used to encircle me in his tight grip of arms.

Then after wards he made me touch his bare Chest. And i don’t know how he made me to touch his nipples? all through this i just tried to imitate all his actions. Gradually he used to lay beside me naked. few nights he just cling me to his bare body thus he made me to like his touch of his body. he then untied his loin cloths and made my hand to touch his private parts. slowly after few days he tried to forcefully press his body against my body. Slowly he made my body to start liking his applying force on me….. then found that he started playing with my front and back with his hand. Many times he tried to enter his organ inside me with force but at first i tried to resist and successfully ran out of bed. But gradually he became violent in applying force. But when he found me sleeping and he pushed through his organ at my back and he did apply his saliva so as to make it slippery. I stoped him and ran out to save myself. But hurt was done.

Even after so many years of my life those acts and touch and that piercing act,  all that just dont leave me, they come all over again to me. What I can do?

Rani Jhansi laxmi bai

rani_of_jhansi_1024x102419 नवंबर 1828 को लक्ष्मी बाई रानी झांसी का जन्म बनारस में हुआ था नाम था मणिकर्णिका. इसी नाम पर बनारस में एक घाट भी है. अंग्रेजो के समय after maratha’s defeat  मराठो की हार के बाद  पेशवा को निष्कासित कर के कानपुर के पास बिठूर में रहने को मिल| मणिकर्णिका के पिता का नाम मोरोपंत तांबे था और मराठा बाजीराव क सेवा में थे. बिठूर में पेशवा के साथ में कई मराठी परिवार भी थे.

In school days i got to read this Amar Chitra Katha on Rani Laxmibai of Jhansi.

मनु जोकि मन मणिकर्णिका का उपनाम था क लालन पालन बिठूर में होने लगा छोटी उम्र से ही मनु तेज तरार थी. 4or 5 साल की उंर में उनकी मां का देहांत हो चुका था. इसलिए भी वह थोड़ी चंचल प्रवृत्ति की हो गई थी और नाना साहब पेशवा तथा अन्य बालकों के साथ में कई स्पर्धा में हिस्सा लेती थी. उसी दौरान अंग्रेजो के जुल्म देखने के बाद उनके मन में अन्याय के प्रति बदला लेने की भावना उठी थी. कालांतर में उनका विवाह झांसी के गंगाधर राव से हो गया वहां पर रानी झांसी लक्ष्मी बाई के नाम से प्रसिद्धि पाई. कुछ वर्षों में उनक पुत्र हुआ उसकी बहुत जल्दी  मृत्यु हो गयी. तदोपरांत जैसे कि सभी राज में प्रथा थी पुत्र गोद लिया, नाम रखा इस मौके पर अंग्रेजी शासकों ने पुत्र को उत्तराधिकार मानने से इनकार कर दिया. झांसी राज्य को अंग्रेजी शासन के अंतर्गत निहित करने का षड्यंत्र रचा

 किला बंदी के दौरान रानी झांसी वहां से निकलकर सैनिकों को ले कर

Statue of Rani Laxmibai of Jhansi at Nana Saheb memorial, Bithoor

और युद्ध कर ग्वालियर पर कब्जा स्थापित  कर लिया था  ग्वालियर में रानी झांसी ने नाना  पेशवा घोषित कर दिया और आगे  दूसरे जगह पर अंग्रेज से युद्ध के लिए आगे बढ़ चली.

अंग्रेजी सेना पीछे करते हुए पहुंच गई और घमासान युद्ध हुआ. अंग्रेज ने तलवार सें सर पर वार किया फिर भी रानी लक्ष्मीबाई ने निडरता पूर्वक उस अंग्रेज अफसर को मार दिया और अपनी सेवकों को बोला कि अंग्रेजों के हाथ मेरा मृत शरीर भी न लगने दिया जाए. सेवक ने पूरा किया इच्छा को

ब्रितानी जनरल ह्यूरोज़ ने टिप्पणी की कि रानी लक्ष्मीबाई अपनी सुन्दरता, चालाकी और दृढ़ता के लिये उल्लेखनीय तो थी ही, विद्रोही नेताओं में सबसे अधिक ख़तरनाक भी थी.







Very early I came to know about the name Manu, who later became was Rani Laxmibai of Jhansi. In Kanpur, as a child we used to go to Bithoor, specially at Maharaj Ghat, on the auspicious days such as Khichdi-MakarSankaranti and on Kartik Poornima to have bath in holy river Ganga. Bithoor has a prominent place among the pilgrimage stations. But for me it was a family connection. One of my ancestor(great grand father) who became a Sanyasi, used to live at the Ghat-Maharaj Ghat- said to be built by Peshwa, who was locally referred to as a maharaj? thus the name Maharaj Ghat was attached to this Ghat in Bithoor.  earlier i had written blog on bithoor – splendour of bithoor and another blog on Baji Rao Mastani

Exif_JPEG_420Earlier a diesel loco or train chugged between Kanpur railway station and Bithoor. which was correctly called as Brahmavart (picture at left)




One the way is a station named as Mandhana(pic below) this was a junction. from here the rail track takes a turn towards right and goes upto bithoor. the other rail track leads to Kannauj or Mathura etc. But this rail track runs parallel to the GT Road- Grand Trunk Road. (Mandhana is my in law’s place)


Recently a memorial for Nana Saheb peshwa is built in Bithoor

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Strange is this poster depicting the photo of actor who played role of Rani Laxmibai in the TV serial


stone reads like this about Rani Laxmibai of Jhansi


Pathar Ghat renovated by the Raja Tikait Rai of Lucknow
Brahmavart ghat said to be renovated by Peshwa when he lived in Bithoor


Rani Jhansi in Kalighat Painting


गंगू दुलहिन

गंगू दुलहिन।
हां यही नाम था उनका। रेलवे गंज हरदोई सराय के पीछे वाली गली और उसके बगल वाली गली दोनों में वे ही काम करती थीं। हमारी नानी जी के घर पर भी वही काम करती थीं। कई बार घर की चौखट पर खड़े होकर उनको चाची चाची कहकर हमारी नानी को बुलाते हुए सुना था। मम्मी को जीजी कहती थी। लंबा इकहरा शरीर चेहरे पर चेचक के दाग, हंसते समय बड़े दांत दिख जाते थे। कई बार सोचता था उनका नाम गंगू दुल्हन क्यों है?
क्योंकि गंगू गंगा या गंगाराम की पत्नी थीं यानि की दुलहन थी गंगू की। इस मोहल्ले में वे ब्याहकर ऑईं थीं। इसलिए उनका नाम सारे मोहल्ले में गंगू दुलहिन पड़ गया और वह इसी नाम से जानी जाती थीं।
कई वर्षों के बाद गली में कुछ दूसरे प्रकार की रौनक थी। छम-छम ध्वनि करती हुई एक आकृति गली में बढ़ रही थी। घूंघट से मुंह ढका था और नई बात थी कि वह चप्पल पहने थी। नयी दुल्हन की तरह थोड़े गहने पहने हुए थे। पायल के घुंघरूओ की आवाज आरही थी।
गली में हर घर के पाखाने की सफाई कर रही थी। गली में दूसरी तरफ एक सुनार का घर था। उसकी पहली मंजिल पर झरोखे में लड़का खड़े होकर कुछ व्यंग कस रहा था। रामप्यारी कह करके कुछ बुला रहा था। कुछ दिनों के बाद पता चला कि यह गंगू दुल्हन की बहू है और नई शादी हो करके हाल ही में आई है इसका नाम ही रामप्यारी है। उसके हाथ में बड़ा सा नादी नुमा, बेत से बिनी हुई डलिया सी थी और एक औजार जो हमेशा रहता था। वह साइकिल के पहिए का कवर होता है उसको एक तरफ पतला करके और दूसरी तरफ से पकड़ने लायक घुमा कर बनाया हुआ हैंडल था। एक ना एक दिन वे सुनार के लड़के इस बहू को कुछ न कुछ कह कर छेडते रहते थे। चाहे देवर भाभी के रिश्ते से या फिर नवयुवक यौवन की दहलीज पर कदम रखते हुए एक कम वय की नवविवाहिता के नाते उसे लोलुप नजरो से देखते थे। हारकर रामप्यारी कई बार कुछ घरों की बुजुर्ग महिलाओं को बोल चुकी थी कि देखो बहुत दिक्कत है परेशान करत हैं। हमें नीक नाइ लागत है। परंतु मोहल्लेदारी या रिश्तेदारी के नाते लड़कों और इस नई नवेली बहू का रिश्ता देवर भौजाई का था इसलिए इस तरीके के छोटे-मोटे मजाक समाज में चलते रहते थे और लोग इस पर कोई ध्यान नही देते थे। आजकल होता पुलिस वगैरह शिकायत हो जाती।
बहुत छोटे पर जब हम लोग नानी के यहां जाते थे तब से गंगू दुल्हन को ही हमने पखाना साफ करते देखा था। हर घर में पखाना गली की तरफ ही खुलता था। कुछ के दरवाजे अच्छे बने होते थे और बड़े होते थे। बड़े घरों के पखाने बड़े होते थे उनमें बड़े दरवाजे थे। कमरा नुमा रहता था और कुछ घरों में तो बोरे का या पीपे की टिन का पर्दा पड़ा रहता था। और रोज ही अक्सर लोगों के बीच झगड़ा होता था। विषय यही रहता था कि उनका दरवाजा टूटा पड़ा है पखाना खुला है। अच्छा नहीं लगता है। बंद करो। ढंग का कुछ क्यों नहीं बना लेते। करें भी क्या? उस स्वच्छता कर्मियों की कॉलोनी के भुजंग सुअर गली में कई बार ताक लगाकर के सारे पखानों में हमला कर बैठते थे। और जरा सा भी मौका पाया पखानों के पल्ले ढीले मिले तो थोड़े टूटे हुए दरवाजों को तहस नहस कर डालते थे। बोरी के परदे और छोटी मोटी टिन के परदे उनके सामने टिकते नहीं थे। गली में दो-तीन बार यह विश्व युद्ध सा दृश्य दिखाई देता था। इसके बाद गली के सारे निवासियों में आपस में झडप होती थी और खूब कहा सुनी होती थी। यही कि हमारे घर के दरवाजे के सामने तुम्हारा पखाना पड़ता है इसलिए इसको बंद करके रखो अच्छा नहीं लगता। कोई आता जाता है तो अच्छा नहीं लगता है।
ऐसे माहौल में गंगू दुलहिन एक परमानेंट फिगर रहती थी। उनके बिना तो गली का काम ही नहीं चलता था। रोज सवेरे आना सफाई करना और फिर अगर समय हुआ तो घरों में जाकर के तगादा करना उलाहना देना कि इस महीने में कुछ नहीं मिला। पैसे नहीं मिले, कुछ भी नहीं मिला।
हमारे घर में आकर के नीचे चौखट पर खड़ी हो करके चाची चाची कह कर बुलाती थी। मेरी नानी की झरोखे से ही उनसे आपस में वार्तालाप होती रहती थी। हमारी नानी उन्हे कभी मना नहीं करती थी किसी बात के लिए। इसलिए गंगू दुल्हन अपनी चाची के पास आकर सभी तरह की बातें करलेती थी। और अगर कुछ मदद होती थी तो वह कैसे भी प्राप्त कर लेती थीं। पैसे या कपड़े या खाने का हो किसी भी तरह की मदद उसमें हम लोग कुछ भी नहीं कर पाते थे। बस दूर से ही सुनते थे और खुदही वे दोनों आपस में ही निपटारा कर लेती थी। हमारी नानी की एक परचून की दुकान भी थी।
गर्मियों की छुट्टियों में जब हम लोग जाते थे तो गली के कई लोग इसमें कुछ भुर्जी के परिवार, एक दो कसाई के परिवार, धोबी का परिवार और गंगू दुलहिन नानी के घर से कुएं का पानी लेने के लिए आ जाते थे। पता नही क्यूं। वे जब भी आती थीं, घर के बाहर से अंदर आने पर एक बरोठा था, आज की भाषा में बरामदा सा था, वे उसकी देहरी कभी पार नहीं करती थी। उन्होंने वह एक मर्यादा सी लक्ष्मण रेखा खीच रखी थी। जीवन पर्यंत यह मर्यादा निभाई।
कई बार ऐसे अवसर आए जब नानी जी की तबीयत खराब थी। या फिर कोई बहुत जरूरी काम था तब नानी जी ने उन्हें पहली मंजिल तक बुलाया। वह भी केवल जीना जहां खत्म होता है उस देहरी तक उसके पार कभी नहीं। पर यह कभी नही लगा कि यह चाची और उनकी भतीजी के बीच कोई अदृश्य रेखा थी। सीमा थी। या रिश्तो की डोर थी। जो कि दोनों तरफ से समान रुप से खींची हुई थी। उसका उन्होंने सदैव पालन किया। हम लोगों को गंगू दुल्हन का हमेशा से मुस्कुराता चेहरा ही दिखाई दिया। जो सदैव गरिमामयी पल्लू से ढका रहता था। गली के छोर पर एक घर था। गली में उसकी निकासी नहीं थी। गली के दूसरी तरफ दूसरी गली में उस घर का निकास द्वार था परंतु हमारी गली में उस घर में दो बड़े दरवाजे नुमा खिड़कियां थी। जब ईद या बकरीद या कोई शादी विवाह आदि कोई अवसर पड़ते थे तब हम लोग उन खिड़कियों की सांको में से झांक कर घर के अंदर देखने की चेष्टा करते थे। उसमे रेशमा रहतीं थीं। गर्मियों में रेशमा भी कुएं का पानी लेने आती थीं। वे भी देहरी के बाहर खड़े होकर के दरवाजे पर चाची चाची की गुहार लगाती थी। चाची(यानि कि हमारी नानी) पहली मंजिल वाले झरोखे पर आकर के उत्तर देती थी। तब पता चलता था कि रेशमा को कुएं का ठंडा पानी चाहिए। लोग शाय़द इसलिए आते थे कि उस कुएं का पानी ठण्डा और मीठा था। पर कुंए तो कई और घरों में भी थे? पर हमें लगता है कि नानी जी शायद ऐसी जरूरी चीजों के लिए मना नहीं करतीं थीं। और घर में कोई पुरुष सदस्य नहीं था इसलिए समाज की सोच कि अकेली विधवा महिला है तो लड़ नहीं पाएंगी दूसरे घरों में पुरुष मालिक होते हैं और उनसे ही पूछ्ना पड़ेगा।
समय बदल चुका था। 1980 का समय था। समाज में बहुत बदलाव आ चुका था। तो हमारी नानी की तरफ से जो कि एक मकान मालकिन थी विधवा थी स्वरोजगार थी कभी भी इस बात के लिए किसी को पानी के लिए मना नहीं करा। हां सामाजिक लोकाचार अपनाते हुए किसी ना किसी से बोला जाता था कि पानी भर करके उनकी बाल्टी में डाल दो। कई बार तो दो एक किराएदार नाराज होने लगे पर नानी जी ने एक नही सुनी। करते भी तो क्या करते उनको घर बदलना पड़ता। पर बिना किराए के कौन उनको मकान देता।
उस सराय में भी एक बड़ा सा कुऑ था पर पता नहीं वहां वो लोग नहीं जाते थे। रेशमा के घर से कुछ कदमों पर ही सरांय थी। दो घर छोड़कर ही थी। और उनके धर्म व‌ बिरादरी के लोग थे शायद या फिर ‌रेशमा की जाती भी अपने समाज में आखरी छोर पर होगी।
हमार नानी के घर के कुएं काही पानी लेकर जाते थे, रोज नहीं, पर कभी कभार। फिर तो कालांतर में जबसे नगर निगम शुरू हुआ उनकी तरफ से नल की सुविधा होने लगी रेशमा और कमला मौसी के द्वार के पास में भी हैंडपंप था और बाद में फिर नलका भी लगा। तब तो किसी के घर जाने की किसी को जरुरत ही नहीं पड़ती थी। पर फिर भी गर्मियों में कुंए का ठण्डा पानी लेने वे लोग नानी के घर ही आते थे। परंतु सामाजिक संबंध और चाची और मौसी और जीजी आदि के संबोधन हमेशा जीवित रहते हैं। और आज भी हैं। उनको कभी भी नहीं तोड़ा जा सकता। यही हमारे समाज की रीढ़ थे आपसी भाईचारा। और स्त्रियों मोहल्ले की महिलाओं द्वारा‌ इसको शदियों से सहज कर रखा गया है अभी तक। इसको ही कह सकते हैं गंगा जमनी तहजी। और वह‌ सदैव जीवित है।

Buying a #Tata #Car? where to put grievance? @TataMotors

i have earlier written about why buying a car is a difficult process now i am writing why buying a car is a bad experience??? at least for me.
For more than 10 years i have waited to take a decision to buy a car, that too belonging to made in India concept.
I was glad when in 2008 a new car was brought out by tata motors, The Tata Nano?, Ratan Tata ji drove on to that stage and revealed it to the world. It was said to be the cheapest car in the world.
That day on wards i thought to put some money to buy this Tata Nano. Whenever I told at home that i want to buy tata nano that very moment a cold war started in my home. forcing me to delay my decision of buying tata nano.
now since i have met an accident and had a fall from scooter and got leg injury. ultimately decided to buy a car immediately. I asked someone in my office to send for dealer of tata motors in my city.
in evening a sales person of dealer of tata motors came to my home. he offered colourful brochure cars. it had attractive photographs of cars with lots of specification. most of those specifications are meaningless to me. To a novice, a first time buyers of a car like me or so to save i am illiterate in that field to know about those specification of a car.
As a common man only criteria is the cost of car that decides our choice. After few deliberation by that sales person we thought to select some but since i had an emergency requirement.  means i cannot wait as i have already injured my knee so unable to walk or drive scooter, i thought to buy a car so that at least i can drive or hire a driver for daily requirements, of taking my son to school, tuition and other house works requiring my wife to go to market and most importantly going to hospital.
While selecting colours we were stuck and also about the few specifications of car. He told that this colour is not available at present you have to wait for sometime if you want this colour or that particular car.
But due to my emergency requirement did not permit me to delay or wait for sometime. That means i do not have a window of waiting time. So we were forced or constraint to buy what was said to be in stock i repeat in stock. That salesperson told this car is in stock so we selected a chocolate brown colour. Inspire of our preferred colour was white. since we were informed that if you want to buy some other car on some other color then you have to wait for sometime, that was the statement given by sales executive. based on that and constraint of time and emergency requirement we opted for that particular Tiago xt of brown colour. we did not get any test drive? there was no request from our side to see the car? As every other customer goes to showroom and select car but in my case i was on medical treatment having leg injury and constraint of time, i mean i my requirement was of an emergency requirement so putting faith on the words of sales person that this car is available in stock with the dealer of tata motors i signed cheque for 3 lakhs and asked him to process a loan application for 2.40 lakhs.
After 2 days i was asked to come to the sbi bank and sign on various papers at various places that bank person told me. he had put tick marks at many places with pencil and i blindly signed without reading a single word on that fat bunch of papers. that was said to be my loan application. i could not wait for there and returned home.
I had told him that delivery time most preferably is Friday. I need car by Friday. On Saturday i went to the showrooms as i did not receive any phone call. So i went there on my own taking an auto rickshaw. Sales person told he do not have driver that day so he was unable to pick me from my home. that’s why i opted for auto rickshaw to reach showroom from there he drove me in a car to workshop. there he showed me one car that was of chocolate brown. there was another customers also who came to see that car. Thus it came out that particular car of brown colour standing in the workshop on Saturday 11th August was of that customer. sales person told me that your car is similar to this car. later when my son enquired about few things he told there will be no alloy wheels, there will be no viper etc etc. Then i stopped him told that i will not see this car you tell me when i can see my car. When you show my car then only my visit will be counted. this visit is not counted.
he said by Wednesday your car will be in workshop.
i returned home and waited for their phone call but it never came. then i asked on Thursday he said i don’t have a vehicle to come to you then i asked you don’t have a motorcycle or anything he said no, i will come tomorrow.
after that i did not receive any phone call for 2 days when i phoned on Friday he told there is some delay then all my patience went away. i could not hold myself.
on Saturday i went to the showroom and inquired about the manager. staff present there told me, manager has gone outside and that particular salesperson is also not in the showroom. then i asked whom shall talk to about my problem. i was promised the car by Friday but it did not happen. so where to put my grievance. While i was shouting crying and telling my problem to staff present there who all seemed to be alien that very time phone call came from the sales person he told there is a delay in arriving of the car? i said i was told that car was in stock? that’s why we were constraint to select that particular car. Otherwise if we were informed that day that this car is also not in stock then i would have chosen any other car. As there was no waiting time for me thus we had selected this car Tiago. Purely due to emergency requirement. now i am told that you have to wait. that means the person told me wrong information. He gave me wrong information. he then told in stock means that car is in transition. i told that i have studied till msc or post graduation and you need not to tell me what is meaning of in stock????
He kept on telling me what is the meaning of in-stock. I said don’t tell me that technical term used car. You told that car is in stock so i gave you money without seeing the car, without having any test drive. only based on this statement that car is in stock and by one week i will get the keys of car, and it should be delivered in my home on Friday based on that i gave the money.
now he began to give me more excuses later on i talked to manager also i told him all that happened with me.
i don’t know what was going on in his mind. he later told that it is very difficult. i said if i am suppose to wait for this car i could have waited for another car also?
had i been told that car is not available i could have opted for another car or another colour. Since i was told that car is in stock so i selected this car. what is my fault? he said no since chasis number is allotted in your name.
consignment is a allotted to your name.
so many excuses he started telling. i told i don’t want this car, give me the Tigor XT and i told I will pay the additional amount. he said there was some miss miscommunication and that salesperson did not tell me this. otherwise i could ever stopped your cheque, so that by the time car comes we would have happily given this car. One car was standing in his showroom. he said he could have sold this car. Sales person could have told me the correct thing.
I said what is the option? i don’t want this Tiago and you give me Tigor XT. I said tell me how much more money you want i’m ready to give. he told that it costs 6.60 lakh. I said i am ready to pay.
he said no, no it is not possible, once car is booked in your name, it cannot be changed.
I said my only complain is that i was not told the correct situation that car is not in-stock.
Sales person told me car was in-stock so i purchaseed.
Now i am not in possession of any car? despite of waiting for so many days. Since 10th August i am waiting waiting and waiting .
I was supposed to get car by 17th August, now it is already 22 August.
Now what is the use of waiting?
God knows why i chose to buy Tata Car?
It would have been better to opt for any other car. Either Maruti or Ford?
considering my idea, that i should buy a made in india car and after waiting from 2008 to buy a tata Nano, i decided in 2018 to buy a tata car.
now i got this bad experience. now i think i have been cheated. and i don’t know what is in future????
I told that you cancel that loan application. Manager told that it will cost you, there will be loss of money. i said okay i can sustain that cost, but change the car. He said there will be problem. i said ok you give away this car(Tiago XT) to any other customer. and give me Tigor XT.
because neither of the cars are in station and i have been kept on waiting forcefully and at not my fault.
it was fault of sales person. But they are not listening? what to do? Where to put my grievance? any one listening in Tata Motors

Old charming days of Indian Art: #Calendars on #Mythology

During Childhood i used to watch our elders, grandparents performing Pooja. There were few dedicated places in homes. In some houses there used to be room called as pooja room. in others only a section of room or almirah are designated as pooja corners. On the walls of rooms were hanging many beautifull calendars depicting Lord Shiva, Parwati, Shri Ram and Sita. Most common was Ram Durbar. there many more of Ganga Avataran, Maa Sarswati etc. Sache Darbar ki jai echoed few times. there was this calendar depicting Shri Ram Sita, Laxman, Hanuman etc full of many men in Ayodhya Darbar of Raja Ram.  That was in 1970s & 80s. But as i am living in 2018 with social media all around me, strangely i am turning my head all around to see if i can find any of those beautifull calenders? Sadly i have none of those pictures. Since almost all of those calendars were on paper, they degraded/ torn and later were immersed in flowing rivers.

Now a days in the age of science and social media we have lost such heritage of Art.

Marriage procession of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati
Satyanarayan- mostly was used when we performed satyanarayan Katha?

Usually, we had this pooja called Satyanarayan ki Katha. That time this picture was placed on a small table decorated with plantain leaves, and table top is decorated with flowers, grains-Rice, a pot filled with water, and covered by Mango leaves. A purohit or pandit ji would come and start a never ending katha(story) that time it was never ending as felt by a child? But eventually it would end and we get to eat fruits, Panjeeri etc. But in between eyes would b full of tears from the smoke coming out from pire of fire of Yajna (Yagya)


there was time when mythology inspired the Art of painting. Many miniature paintings were mostly inspired by Mythology. miniature paintings were not for common man during medieval times. It was an art for rich, kings and nobles or businessmen. In Bengal School of Arts few artists painted miniature inspired painting. They had local subjects and craft is from Folk traditions.

Paintings of Raja Ravi Verma were inspired from mythology too, but the technic of Oil paintings was European.


birth of Shakuntala- why she was illegitimate child? 

This painting(above), I think is of Raja Ravi Verma style. Though Painting is beautifull but the subject is very saddening. The sage shown here is disowning the girl child born only due to him. As a rishi he was supposed to do Tapasya(learning with hardships) but he lost control and had an sexual alliance with this apsara Menaka. This unsafe sexual act bore a child. that might or must have been accepted by both parents. unfortunately she was orphaned. Later renamed as Shakuntala. That rishi(sage) was solely responsible for birth of that girl child. I dont know whether God punished him or not?


Lord Shri Ram & Sita, since Hanuman is there!!
Shiva family
Lord Shiv Parvati Vivha- marriage of Goddess Parvati and Lord Shiv
Lord Shiv and Parvati Vivah
Lord Shiv Parvati family
Shiv parivar
Vishnu Laxmi and Shiv Parvati
Ganesh is welcomed home
Rajyabhishekh of Raja Ram



Radha Madhav, Radha Krishna
is it vishnu?



GajaLakshmi, Raja Ravi Verma style


This above is a beautifully framed picture of Shri Ram Durbar or panchayat as mentioned in that photo. Earlier such photo frames were common features in our homes, hanging in tilted form from a nail in walls.

Later when i saw a fat old magazine(Kalyan) kept in the almirah in the pooja room, i was surprised to see many such beautifull paintings on our Indian traditions.

d547e609417f2b2b7ebd9b14501c9874 This depicts the establishment of Lord Shiva when Shri Ram reached the shore of Sea, and was named as Rameshwaram. Lord of Ram!!

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