The #Diva- one & only #SitaraDevi ji #nrityasamragyi; #Queen of #kathak

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The moment you see at Sitara Devi ji here in every frame the bright spirit comes alive.

Not only for women’s day but for my respect and remembrance I thought to “google” (as this word has become synonym for search) some of the images of our great star. From those thousands pics I selected and copied few pictures available and pasted here. sitara3

I wish i can write a small booklet on her. (i will try on net) each frame tells a story thus that story I will imagine and try to write  in my way. But for now, on women’s day, she is the true symbol to pay respect towards her (an untirirng spirit of a woman).

I had seen her many programs on Doordarshan all black and white broadcast from Lucknow Doordarshan Kendra during 1980s. I wish all are available in doordarshan archives? Similar programs of GopiKrishna were also telecasted.

I am not the only one who is in awe of her. The famous Dance critic writer Sunil Kothari said about her “Sitara was exceptionally talented. Full of energy and infectious spirit, her dance cast a spell on audiences, not for the nazakat (delicacy) and khubsoorti (beauty) the Lucknow gharana was known for, but for her electrifying Kathak. Sitara’s endearing way of speaking to the audience, be it in Motihari village in Bihar, or Carnegie Hall in New York, won her the affection of connoisseurs and lay people. She was a law unto herself.?       These words sumup abou ther in little.

The moment Sitara Devi ji used to come up on stage She used to electrify whole of stage.

Although SitaraDevi ji hailed from “Kathak family” and a Brahmin family, where it was a social stigma on dancing by girls of such families. But due to encouragement from her Father and guru Pt Sukhdev Maharaj she got opportunity to learn Kathak Dance from her elder sisters Tara ji, who was mother of Nritya Samrat GopiKrishna ji. Another elder sister was Alakhnanda ji who was also a famous kathak performer of her time. I think she died nearly in 1984 ??? i dont remember exact year. But when I went to BHU to appear in an examination there i had read a newsitem in a news paper that Alakhnanda ji was seriously ill and ailing in a hospital. Since I had gone to BHU to appear in an examination and i could imagine how my parents and relatives could have reacted had I requested them to take me to that hospital just to see Alakhnanda ji?? that is situation in our society. Then imagine what hardship these ladies, these legendry stars, had to face during their childhood in 1920s or 1930s?

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Eldest sister of SitaraDevi ji Smt Alaknanda Devi ji
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Sitara Devi ji was a permanent star attendance at most famous Holi Dhamal of RK Studio,.

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Has anyone thought that a LP record of a classical dancerimages (4) will be brought out in those times? HMV might have thought of her popularity among people of India for her singing and dancing capabilities.

Sitara Ji always loved the brighter side of life, i think that shows her postive attitude towards life. the zeal to live life to its fullest.sit1  sit6sit7

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Sitara ji married at her own terms. Sitara Devi was married to Nazir Ahmed Khan then to K. Asif and then to Pratap Barot. K Asif was brother of wife of Nazir Ahmed Khan.

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In this age Dr Sitara Devi ji came up on stage and people sought her blessings, at Sur Singar Sansad. Here daughter of Sitara Devi Ji Smt JayantiMala presented her dance. After Sitara Devi ji and Gopi Krishna ji there is no one who can bear the Torch of Banaras Gharana of Kathak. I mean that charm and majesty which these star dancers carried will be missed.

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Each and every frame depicts her as lively persona

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This particular image is enough to describe her untiring spirit and ever ready to dance. She was on wheel chair and still performed on stage at a function organised in memory of women empowerment !!! is it not a symbol of untiring spirit.

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http://www.thehindu.com/features/friday-review/sitara-devi-obituary/article6639595.ece

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sitara_Devi

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CHILD ABUSE at home : Child sexual abuse, what can we call it?

While sleeping i felt something unusual, But deep in sleep i could not figure it out. I felt a human body beside me. Thus clinging to that warm body I slept again. Now i know how it is dangerous to fall asleep.

He after applying his liquid kisses on me, tried to take me into his tight embrace. I also put my arms around him. He was so pleased by this that again he gave me his liquid kisses. He uses his tongue to lick my cheeks. Putting his lips on my cheeks, he sucks my cheeks tightly. He then as if assuring me tried to caress all over my head, my body and planted kiss on my forehead.

After that whenever i felt something i would move. He immediately took me into his grip of arms. Presented kisses as if, saying don’t worry, everything is ok. For assurance i had bounty of his liquid kisses on me. He many times would say “good child”.

I had picked up habit of imitating him. Whatever he did i did try to do same. He used to kiss on my forehead, cheeks, neck, eyes. i also tried to cling to him and try to kiss him on his chest and his cheeks. When he moved his body towards me then i kissed him. I also imitated him by placing my arms around him.

he was kissing me all over. His chest was over my mouth suddenly his nipples were touching  my mouth I tried to put lips on them. He liked it. he then moved close towards me and adjusted me so that my mouth be placed on his chest, So that my lips touch his nipples. As soon as his nipples came in contact if my lips I tried to firm up my lips as if I tried to kiss. He liked it. Actually he was trying to adjust himself so that I can do it again on him. He gone mad at that time with lots of groaning moaning sounds. He madly kissed me again and again. He just ate my cheeks as if he will puncture my cheeks. My cheeks were full of his saliva. He rolled his warm tongue all over my cheeks. He sucked cheeks strongly. Whole of my cheeks he pulled just like making vacuum inside his mouth.

When i tried to suck his nipple he laughed. I heard him laugh in that darkness. My ears were full of thumping sounds of my heart and his heart. His chest was so close to my face. He was taller and huge well built guy.

Then he placed his leg on me as if keeping me under his control. After I slept i didn’t know what happened? when he came? when he untied his cloths?. But when he placed his leg on me then the touch of his skin indicated that is without cloths.

When he placed his leg on me, my hand touched his thighs. he lifted his leg and adjusted himself so that my hand touch him where both of his leg meet. He pressed his arms around me tightly, he pushed me down and funny thing was that he presented many kisses.

Again while sleeping in this posture suddenly some movements woke me up. my hand found that he had loosened his loin cloth and he was rubbing himself against my body. there it was, a very hard erect thing. He might have also known that i have woken-up so he again encircled me with his strong arms and pulled towards his chest and tried to assure with soft kisses and started licking me. he guided my hand with his hand and placed it around that pulpy tube like organ. he guided my palm to grip it and make movements. By All that he meant as to tell me what to do??

My palm touched that stiff, erect hard thing. what was it? A hard fleshy thing. He started moaning. suddenly he took me into his tight grip OF ARMS as if i thought he will break my bones. But he did not forget his liquid kisses. I was made to turn halfway, now i was completely in his grip. He started rubbing vigorously his belly against me. I think he knew that i loved his liquid kisses, thus whenever i tried to stop him, softening his grips he kissed on me with his saliva kisses.

As he tightened his arms around me, he thrust his belly on me with more force. After that when i tried to move he would just soften his arms. when i again start sleeping he would again do something.  All few days all this touching thing went on.

That day also he stayed in my house. Strangely i was sleeping, something happened, since by now i had become habitual of this body touching and tight grips. thus thinking that something happening as usual, carelessly i just put my arms also around him and slept.

I felt some pressure, he kissed me. He was partly naked. i felt his bare chest at my back.

when he applied force that time i might have woken up, he then forcefully took me into arms and was thrusting his belly into my back.  He had trapped me in his arms so i could not move freely, he caressed all over my body. he surveyed my back. When he forcefully pressed his belly into my back i was shocked. there he had applied his saliva, at that moment when he thrust his organ into me and When his raw flesh (devil) touched on that spot i was blown into pieces. He thrust his fly. his organ was trying to pierce into me. He was halfway through. At that moment With full force I moved a little and came out of bed and failed his attempts.

That night changed me for forever.

This incident brought some of the previous memories to fore, which i had forgotten.

These happened when i was i think 6 or 7 years old.

one dark night I woke-up due to some unknown sensation in my lower part, I found one of my cousin lying beside me. He was much elder to me. he was doing some movements holding me.  he guided my arm to hold in grip a slippery tube like bulbous structure. Holding my hand he made to do some to and fro movements with speed. After some time some strong smashing jerks felt by my hand. I could not see anything since it was a darkest night, i have ever known.

then he lifted and took me somewhere to another place. When he placed me on that bed i found there was another a naked body.  i felt his skin.  It was a big body and well built. He took me into his arms, gently. Despite of a tough body he was gentle enough to kiss me several times. This was amazing and strange kiss i ever had. i never had such type of kiss ever before.

He adjusted me beside him on his bed. My cousin who brought me on that bed went back. This naked BIG body kept his arms around me as if i am a petite little chicken who has to be treated softly. he made me to cling to his body with his strong big arms. Immediately He made my left palm to hold something. It was much more magnificent than my cousin’s organ, hard, bulbous, smooth silky, wet, and erect with warmth. It also had some jerky motion within it. Only missing thing was that i could not see it. There was complete darkness of night. nothing was visible. He was holding me in arms while offering kisses. Body was wet with sweat. But that thing was much more longer than my palm. While i was guessing what this long thing is? He squeezed me, climbed on me, I felt crushed under his huge body and he was doing all his jumping motion on me, i wanted to run out. he held me strongly under his body. He was strong built… I tried to run out of the cot.   to that he said what happened my child? where are you going?

he was a tenant in my grandmother’s house. That night my grandmother was not at home. she had gone to attend a pooja at neighbour’s house which usually they do in the NAVRATRI days. Devi Jagran.

Then whenever i felt something unusual thing while sleeping i found my cousin doing something at my front. While taking nap in summer afternoons, he used to come on bed and lay beside me. I was staying alone with grandmother during summer holidays. In afternoons time, Everybody would sleep. He wore just a cloth around his waist. so he was completely naked. encircling my body with his hand around me. he would make my hand to take his organ in grip and to do some movement over it.

Was this not child molestation?  where i could have complained? these persons were known to me, trusted persons.

That person who recently did this to me was much Elder to me.

He used to stay in our house whenever he used to go city for his job. He always got chance to stay at our house. By touching and praising he made my body accustomed to his TOUCH. then slowly he had graduated on to sneaking into my bed at Nights. Then he made me feel his kisses, liquid and warm kisses, gradually he introduced me to his bare body, his strong arms, He used to encircle me in his tight grip of arms.

Then after wards he made me touch his bare Chest. And i don’t know how he made me to touch his nipples? all through this i just tried to imitate all his actions. Gradually he used to lay beside me naked. few nights he just cling me to his bare body thus he made me to like his touch of his body. he then untied his loin cloths and made my hand to touch his private parts. slowly after few days he tried to forcefully press his body against my body. Slowly he made my body to start liking his applying force on me….. then found that he started playing with my front and back with his hand. Many times he tried to enter his organ inside me with force but at first i tried to resist and successfully ran out of bed. But gradually he became violent in applying force. But when he found me sleeping and he pushed through his organ at my back and he did apply his saliva so as to make it slippery. I stoped him and ran out to save myself. But hurt was done.

Even after so many years of my life those acts and touch and that piercing act,  all that just dont leave me, they come all over again to me. What I can do?

Buying a #Tata #Car? where to put grievance? @TataMotors

i have earlier written about why buying a car is a difficult process now i am writing why buying a car is a bad experience??? at least for me.
For more than 10 years i have waited to take a decision to buy a car, that too belonging to made in India concept.
I was glad when in 2008 a new car was brought out by tata motors, The Tata Nano?, Ratan Tata ji drove on to that stage and revealed it to the world. It was said to be the cheapest car in the world.
That day on wards i thought to put some money to buy this Tata Nano. Whenever I told at home that i want to buy tata nano that very moment a cold war started in my home. forcing me to delay my decision of buying tata nano.
now since i have met an accident and had a fall from scooter and got leg injury. ultimately decided to buy a car immediately. I asked someone in my office to send for dealer of tata motors in my city.
in evening a sales person of dealer of tata motors came to my home. he offered colourful brochure cars. it had attractive photographs of cars with lots of specification. most of those specifications are meaningless to me. To a novice, a first time buyers of a car like me or so to save i am illiterate in that field to know about those specification of a car.
As a common man only criteria is the cost of car that decides our choice. After few deliberation by that sales person we thought to select some but since i had an emergency requirement.  means i cannot wait as i have already injured my knee so unable to walk or drive scooter, i thought to buy a car so that at least i can drive or hire a driver for daily requirements, of taking my son to school, tuition and other house works requiring my wife to go to market and most importantly going to hospital.
While selecting colours we were stuck and also about the few specifications of car. He told that this colour is not available at present you have to wait for sometime if you want this colour or that particular car.
But due to my emergency requirement did not permit me to delay or wait for sometime. That means i do not have a window of waiting time. So we were forced or constraint to buy what was said to be in stock i repeat in stock. That salesperson told this car is in stock so we selected a chocolate brown colour. Inspire of our preferred colour was white. since we were informed that if you want to buy some other car on some other color then you have to wait for sometime, that was the statement given by sales executive. based on that and constraint of time and emergency requirement we opted for that particular Tiago xt of brown colour. we did not get any test drive? there was no request from our side to see the car? As every other customer goes to showroom and select car but in my case i was on medical treatment having leg injury and constraint of time, i mean i my requirement was of an emergency requirement so putting faith on the words of sales person that this car is available in stock with the dealer of tata motors i signed cheque for 3 lakhs and asked him to process a loan application for 2.40 lakhs.
After 2 days i was asked to come to the sbi bank and sign on various papers at various places that bank person told me. he had put tick marks at many places with pencil and i blindly signed without reading a single word on that fat bunch of papers. that was said to be my loan application. i could not wait for there and returned home.
I had told him that delivery time most preferably is Friday. I need car by Friday. On Saturday i went to the showrooms as i did not receive any phone call. So i went there on my own taking an auto rickshaw. Sales person told he do not have driver that day so he was unable to pick me from my home. that’s why i opted for auto rickshaw to reach showroom from there he drove me in a car to workshop. there he showed me one car that was of chocolate brown. there was another customers also who came to see that car. Thus it came out that particular car of brown colour standing in the workshop on Saturday 11th August was of that customer. sales person told me that your car is similar to this car. later when my son enquired about few things he told there will be no alloy wheels, there will be no viper etc etc. Then i stopped him told that i will not see this car you tell me when i can see my car. When you show my car then only my visit will be counted. this visit is not counted.
he said by Wednesday your car will be in workshop.
i returned home and waited for their phone call but it never came. then i asked on Thursday he said i don’t have a vehicle to come to you then i asked you don’t have a motorcycle or anything he said no, i will come tomorrow.
after that i did not receive any phone call for 2 days when i phoned on Friday he told there is some delay then all my patience went away. i could not hold myself.
on Saturday i went to the showroom and inquired about the manager. staff present there told me, manager has gone outside and that particular salesperson is also not in the showroom. then i asked whom shall talk to about my problem. i was promised the car by Friday but it did not happen. so where to put my grievance. While i was shouting crying and telling my problem to staff present there who all seemed to be alien that very time phone call came from the sales person he told there is a delay in arriving of the car? i said i was told that car was in stock? that’s why we were constraint to select that particular car. Otherwise if we were informed that day that this car is also not in stock then i would have chosen any other car. As there was no waiting time for me thus we had selected this car Tiago. Purely due to emergency requirement. now i am told that you have to wait. that means the person told me wrong information. He gave me wrong information. he then told in stock means that car is in transition. i told that i have studied till msc or post graduation and you need not to tell me what is meaning of in stock????
He kept on telling me what is the meaning of in-stock. I said don’t tell me that technical term used car. You told that car is in stock so i gave you money without seeing the car, without having any test drive. only based on this statement that car is in stock and by one week i will get the keys of car, and it should be delivered in my home on Friday based on that i gave the money.
now he began to give me more excuses later on i talked to manager also i told him all that happened with me.
i don’t know what was going on in his mind. he later told that it is very difficult. i said if i am suppose to wait for this car i could have waited for another car also?
had i been told that car is not available i could have opted for another car or another colour. Since i was told that car is in stock so i selected this car. what is my fault? he said no since chasis number is allotted in your name.
consignment is a allotted to your name.
so many excuses he started telling. i told i don’t want this car, give me the Tigor XT and i told I will pay the additional amount. he said there was some miss miscommunication and that salesperson did not tell me this. otherwise i could ever stopped your cheque, so that by the time car comes we would have happily given this car. One car was standing in his showroom. he said he could have sold this car. Sales person could have told me the correct thing.
I said what is the option? i don’t want this Tiago and you give me Tigor XT. I said tell me how much more money you want i’m ready to give. he told that it costs 6.60 lakh. I said i am ready to pay.
he said no, no it is not possible, once car is booked in your name, it cannot be changed.
I said my only complain is that i was not told the correct situation that car is not in-stock.
Sales person told me car was in-stock so i purchaseed.
Now i am not in possession of any car? despite of waiting for so many days. Since 10th August i am waiting waiting and waiting .
I was supposed to get car by 17th August, now it is already 22 August.
Now what is the use of waiting?
God knows why i chose to buy Tata Car?
It would have been better to opt for any other car. Either Maruti or Ford?
considering my idea, that i should buy a made in india car and after waiting from 2008 to buy a tata Nano, i decided in 2018 to buy a tata car.
now i got this bad experience. now i think i have been cheated. and i don’t know what is in future????
I told that you cancel that loan application. Manager told that it will cost you, there will be loss of money. i said okay i can sustain that cost, but change the car. He said there will be problem. i said ok you give away this car(Tiago XT) to any other customer. and give me Tigor XT.
because neither of the cars are in station and i have been kept on waiting forcefully and at not my fault.
it was fault of sales person. But they are not listening? what to do? Where to put my grievance? any one listening in Tata Motors

Old charming days of Indian Art: #Calendars on #Mythology

During Childhood i used to watch our elders, grandfather and grandmothers performing Pooja. There were few dedicated places as well in homes. On the walls were hanging many beautifull calendars depicting Lord Shiva, Parwati, Shri Ram and Sita.

Ganga Avataran, Maa Sarswati and many more. Sache Darbar ki jai echoed few times. there was this calendar depicting Shri Ram Sita, Laxman, Hanuman etc full of many men in Ayodhya Darbar of Raja Ram.  That was in 1970s & 80s. But as i am living in 2018 with social media all around me, strangely i am turning my head all around to see if any of those beautifull pictures i can find? Sadly i have none of those pictures, As many of them were on paper. during the course of time they degraded torn and later were immersed in flowing rivers. Nowdays in the age of science and social media we have lost such heritage of Art.

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Marriage procession of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati
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Satyanarayan

Usually there was a time when we had this pooja called Satyanarayan ki Katha. That time this picture was placed on a small table decorated with plantain leaves, and table top is decorated with flowers, grains-Rice, a pot filled with water, and covered by Mango leaves. A purohit or pandit ji would come and start a never ending katha(story) that time it was never ending in feeling. But eventually it would end and we get to eat fruits, Panjeeri etc. But in between eyes would b full of tears from the smoke coming out from pire of fire of Yajna (Yagya)

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Ardhnarishwar

there was time when mythology inspired the painting Art. Many miniature paintings were always inspired by Mythology. miniature paintings were not for common man. It was an art for rich, kings and nobles or businessmen. Few in Bengal School of Arts painted miniature inspired painting having the local subjects and craft is from Folk traditions.

Whereas paintings of Raja Ravi Verma were inspired from mythology too, but the technic of Oil paintings was European.

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C4j_A3WVcAALHW_ This beautifull painting is also i think from Raja Ravi Verma style. Painting is beautifull but the subject or the story painted is very saddening. The sage shown here is disowning the girl child born due to him. As a rishi he was supposed to do the Tapasya(learning etc) but he lost control and had an sexual alliance with this apsara. but natural this unsafe sexual act bore a child. that might or must have been accepted by both parents. unfortunately she was orphaned. Later renamed as Shakuntala.

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Lord Shri Ram & Sita, i think this from some magazine

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Lord Shiv Parvati Vivha
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Lord Shiv and Parvati Vivah
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Lord Shiv Parvati family
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Shiv parivar
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Vishnu Laxmi and Shiv Parvati
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Ganesh is welcomed home
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Rajyabhishekh of Raja Ram

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is it meenakshi & vishnu?

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GajaLakshmi, Raja Ravi Verma style

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This above is a beautifully framed picture of Shri Ram Durbar or panchayat as mentioned in that photo. Earlier such photo frames were common features in our homes, hanging in tilted form from a nail in walls.

Later when i saw a fat old magazine kept in the almirah in the pooja room, i was surprised to see many such beautifull paintings on our Indian traditions.

 

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Varah Avatar
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Shiv Parvati

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रमेश हलवाई Ramesh Halwai?

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रेलवे गंज हरदोई के उस मोहल्ले में मेरी नानी का मकान था। वहां पर एक किरायेदार रहते थे उनका नाम था रमेश। जब हम छोटे थे 1971 में मांटेसरी स्कूल में पढ़ते थे कक्षा चार में। तब अक्सर रेलवे स्टेशन की तरफ चले जाते थे। उस को बोलते थे रेलवे फाटक वाली रोड। रेलवेस्टेशन तो दूसरी रोड पर पड़ता था। इस रोड को मोहलिया जाने वाली रोड कहते थे। फाटक के पास कुछ दुकाने थीं उनमें से एक दुकान रमेश की थी। अक्सर जब जाते थे तब उसमें कुछ मिठाई पेड़ा समोसा आदि मिलते थे।

कई वर्ष उपरांत जब हम लोग कानपुर रहने लगे तब कभी-कभार छुट्टियों में ही जाने का अवसर मिलता था। जब फाटक वाली रोड पर पहुंचे तो देखा रमेश की दुकान थोड़ी उजड़ी उजड़ी दिख रही थी। ना तो उसमें रौनक थी न मिठाइयां दिख रही थी। कुछ एक टूटी-फूटी अलमारी जिसमें कांच लगे हुए थे पुरानी अलमारी थी। एक कोने में उनका लड़का बैठा था। क्योंकि लड़का बड़ा हो रहा था 10 या 11 साल का हो गया था लिहाजा उसे भी पिता का हाथ बटाना था। थोड़ी समोसे आदि पकौड़ी जैसी कोई चीज बिक रही थी।

साल भर बाद गए तो पता चला घर में ही आंगन में उनकी पत्नी और लड़कियां समोसा आदि बना रहे थे। आश्चर्य हुआ कि कुछ समय में इनका रहने का स्तर कैसे इतना गिर गया? छोटे पर तो होश नहीं था पर इतना पता चला था कि रमेश दुलहिन एक किसी बड़े प्रतिष्ठित हलवाई की पुत्री थीं। उन हलवाई की दो या तीन ही लड़कियां ही थी कोई पुत्र नहीं था। हरदोई शहर में और लड़कियां रहती थी आपस में उनका बनता नहीं था। पिता का जो धन जायदाद थी इन तीन चार बहनों में ही बट चुकी थी। पहले तो इनका घर ठीक ठाक दिखता था। हम इनके घर में जाते थे। बड़ी लड़की का नाम था अबलेश कमलेश हमारा नाम था। छोटी बहन का नाम मिथिलेश था। लड़के का लड़के का नाम मुझे याद नहीं है। एक और छोटी सी लड़की थी। याह तो मुझे पता दो या तीन बच्चों का जन्म तो हमारे सामने ही उसी घर में हुआ था। उस समय पता नहीं क्यों अस्पताल नहीं जाते थे बच्चे के जन्म के लिए। जचकी घर में ही हो जाती थी कई बार दाई आ जाती क ई बार नहीं। नानी के मोहल्ला में मैंने कम से कम लगभग हर घर में जन्म घर में ही होते देखा है। परंतु हमारी बहन का जन्म हरदोई अस्पताल में हुआ था। अब इसको अज्ञानता अनभिज्ञता कहें या फिर अभाव? संसाधनों का अभाव जिसकी वजह से लोग हस्पताल अस्पताल नहीं जा पाते हैं बच्चे का जन्म कराने के लिए। हो सकता है की गरीबी या संसाधन की कमी! आर्थिक रुप से कमजोरी ही एक बड़ा कारण हो जिससे कि लोग जन्म के लिए मां को अस्पताल नहीं ले जा पाते?

बात हम बता रहे थे कि कैसे उस घर का आर्थिक संतुलन बिगड़ गया। एक दो बार मैंने उनको बोला था कि आप अपना खाता खोल लीजिए पासबुक अपने पास रखिए। बैंक में जाइए और चुपचाप पैसे डाल लिया करिए हर महीना किसी को पता ही नहीं चलेगा। तो वह हंसती थी मेरे ऊपर। तो मुझे पता नहीं था उसके पीछे क्या कारण था। चूंकि मैं नानी के साथ हिन्दुस्तान कामर्शियल बैंक जाता था पासबुक भी देखी थी इसलिए मैंने उनसे भी यही करने को कहा था।
कुछ वर्षों के अंतराल में मैंने देखा वह कई बार ऊपर आती थी नानी से कुछ पैसे उधार मांगती थीं चुपचाप जिससे किसी को पता न चले। कभी दो रुपया या पांच रुपया। आज रुपया भी कोई रुपए होते उधार मांगने के लिए। पर उस समय में उनके कमरे का किराया लगभग ₹15 या २५ ₹ था।
फिर अगली साल हम गए तो पता चला बड़ी बेटी को टीबी हो गई। मुझे तो विश्वास न हुआ। कैसे हो गई इसका कुछ पता नहीं चला। कि डॉक्टर को दिखाया या नहीं यह भी नहीं पता चला। जिस घर में बच्चे के जन्म के समय मां को अस्पताल ना ले जा सके उस घर में हम क्या आशा कर सकते कि वो बच्चों को डॉक्टर को दिखाएगा? कैसे दिखाएगा? और वह भी चार बच्चे?
फिर अगले वर्ष पता चला अबलेश की मृत्यु हो गई। अब मिथलेश बड़ी हो गई। उसकी छोटी बहन भी काम काज करने लगी। लड़का बिगड़ गया घर से भागा रहता था। और यह सब हुआ दो तीन साल में। मैंने सुना रमेश बहुत शराब के आदी हो गए थे और शायद जुंआं भी खेलते थे। रात बिरात आने जाने का कोई समय नहीं था उनका। करते-करते घर की हालत खराब हो गई। घर के आंगन में ही रमेशदुलहिन चूल्हा जलाकर जो सामान आ जाता उससे इमली की चटनी टमाटर की चटनी समोसा कचोरी कुछ इस प्रकार की चीजें बना देती फिर वे सब चीजें दुकान जाती। दुकान से जो बीक कर आता होगा या नहीं आता होगा उसमें पूरा घर गुजारा करता। एक मां तीन बच्चे शराबी पति पता नहीं कैसे गुजारा करते थे। एक साल जब गया तो देखा कि उनके चश्मा लग गया था अब उसमें से भी उनको दिखता था कि नहीं दिखता था। हर साल जाने से ऐसा लगता जैसे वह चश्मे को हिला हिला के प्रयास करती देखती आगे बढ़ती और घर का सारा काम करती। कौन जानता है कि उस चश्मे से उनको दिखाई देता था या नहीं? आंख दिखाने के लिए चश्मा बनवाने के लिए वे कहां जाती? और फिर वे अपनी पीड़ा किसको बतातीं? उस समय कोई घर-घर जाकर लोगों को अस्पताल वाले तो नहीं देखते थे? हम तो छोटे थे क्या बहाना बनाएं? ऊपर से देखते मन मसोस कर रह जाता। खाने-पीने की चीजों से ही मदद कर पाता था।
दीपावली आई। मैंने देखा आंगन में ही रमेश ने शक्कर की बतासे बनाने शुरू करे। शक्कर के खिलौने बनाए। वहां पर ही मैंने देखा कि कैसे छोटे और बड़े कई तरीके की शक्कर के बतासे बनाए जाते हैं कैसे शक्कर के खिलौने बनाए जाते हैं।
हो सकता है कि वो एक मंझे हुए हलवाई रहे होंगे उनको हलवाई की क्राफ्ट आती थी हलवाई गुण आता था इसलिए उनके पास हुनर कला तो थी परंतु पता नहीं क्यों उनको सफलता वह नहीं मिल पा रही थी? बिजनेस फेल होगया था। मार्किट ने अपने को जमा नहीं पा रहे थे। नानी क्योंकि मकान मालिक थीं इसलिए कई बार गुस्सा भी हुई थी कि आंगन में लाकर के सामान और भट्टी और तरह-तरह जो उपकरण इस्तेमाल करते हैं जिससे कि मकान को भी छति पहुंचती है और अगल बगल के रिश्तेदार भी शिकायत दर्ज करवाते हैं कि उनको असुविधा होती है। गरीब परिवार था इसलिए शायद नानीजी चुप रह जाती थी। सुन लेती थी। परंतु बहुत ही कठिन जीवन था उन लोगों का।
हम तो उनको मामी कहते थे। जब भी ऊपर मिलने आती थी नानी से उनके चेहरे पर एक सीमित मुस्कान ही रहती थी। जो कि एक आवरण ही होती थी। मुझे पता थी यह बात। हम तो एक महीना या 20 दिन के लिए ही छुट्टियों में जाते थे परंतु देख तो लेते थे उनकी हालत।
धीरे-धीरे उनके सारे अच्छे वस्त्र छूट गए साज सिंगार सब छूट गया हाथ के कंगन बिछिया मांग बेंदा गले का हार कान की बालियां कुंडल जो भी स्त्रीयोचित श्रृंगार की चीजें थी वो सबसे दूर हो गई थीं। यहां तक कि लगता वह स्नान भी नहीं करती थी रोज। नहीं कर पाती थी साबुन कहां से आएगा? रोज शरीर को और कपड़े धोने के लिए? बरतन कढ़ाई वगैरह धोना तो मजबूरी थी क्योंकि दूसरे दिन उसमे उनको फिर बनाना था।
हम देखते थे कि उस घर में खाना नहीं था पेट भर कर। पर बच्चियां और मां समोसा चटनी और तरह-तरह के चीजें बनाती थी पर मजाल कि उनमें से चख भी लें। हलवाई की पुत्री थीं और शायद जानती थीं बिजनेस के उसूलों को? झूठा नहीं करना चाहिए? या फिर पुरुष का भर।
पर मैंने जहां तक देखा है कि बच्चे और मां अक्सर भूखे ही‌ रह जाते थे। हम लोग जब बारहवी में आ गए उसके बाद पढाई में इतने व्यस्त हो गए कि कई वर्षों तक हरदोई जाना नहीं हुआ। कई वर्षों के बाद देखा पूरा घर सूनसान हो गया था जसे उसमें कोई रहता ही नहीं था। पता चला सब लोग चले गए। किसी की मौत हो गई। किसी का क्या हुआ कोई बताने वाला भी नहीं था। लड़का कभी कभार आता था एक दो बार पर रमेश का कुछ पता नहीं चला।
दुख लगता है कि एक कैसे एक कर्मठ परिवार पूरा खत्म हो गया। शायद आर्थिक कमजोरी के कारण या फिर हमारे सरकारी सामाजिक सुविधाओं को जरुरतमंद तक ना पहुंच पाने के कारण। जन सुविधाओं को जनता तक या गरीब तक ना पहुंच पाना?
या फिर समाज के रूप में विफल होना?
बीमारी और दवाई में लोग ज्यादा मदद नहीं कर पाते हैं। खाना तो आस पड़ोस से मिल जाता है परंतु बार-बार अस्पताल जाना, डॉक्टरों की फीस, दवाइयों का खर्च, आदि थोड़ा कठिन हो जाता है दूसरों के लिए।
जहां तक मैंने देखा है क्योंकि लोग आस पड़ोस के खुद भी गरीब होते हैं तो जितना हो सकता है उतना अपने हिसाब से लोग एक दूसरे की मदद करते हैं।
पर सवाल उठता है उनके पास राशन कार्ड तो होगा? क्या गरीबी की रेखा के नीचे वाला राशन कार्ड नहीं था? या उस समय यह योजना नहीं थी? यह तो सब हम अनुमान लगा रहे हैं पर वास्तविकता क्या है? बात बहुत पुरानी हो चुकी है 1982 के बाद से तो मैंने देखा ही नहीं है किसी को ना अपने नानी का घर गया। कैसा है वह?

Is buying a car a big thing?

गाड़ी खरीदना क्या बहुत बड़ा काम होता है?

कई साल हो गए सोचते सोचते कि एक कार खरीद लें लेकिन रोज-रोज सोचकर बातें करके इधर उधर पता लगाने पर भी आज तक एक कार नहीं खरीद पाए।

अब तो पुत्र बारहवी क्लास में पढ़ने लगा है और पत्नी की तबीयत भी खराब रहती है। इन कई वर्षों में चार पांच बार स्कूटर से गिरने पर चोट भी लग चुकी है फिर भी पता नहीं क्यों कार नहीं खरीद पा रहे हैं। ऐसा क्या है कार खरीदने में?

कई वर्ष पहले जब परिवार आरंभ किया था तब सोचा था कि जब पुत्र होएगा उस समय कोई वाहन की व्यवस्था कर लेंगे। तब तक ऐसे ही काम चला लेंगे। जब पुत्र हुआ तो सोचा कि अभी तो स्कूल जा नहीं रहा है जब स्कूल जाने का समय आएगा तब कोई साधन ले लेंगे। लेकिन एक बच्चे के पालने के समय भी कई बार एक वाहन के न होने की कमी खल रही थी। क्योंकि जब बच्चा बड़ा हो रहा था तो कभी-कभी अक्सर बीमार हो जाता था तब जल्दी से जल्दी लक्ष्य रहता था कि अस्पताल पहुंचे। उस समय अस्पताल लगभग 7 या 8 किलोमीटर होगा हमारे घर से। उस जगह सरकारी बस या यातायात के की सुविधा ज्यादा नहीं थी। दो तीन प्राइवेट बस ही चलती थीं। वह जगह क्योंकि शहर से थोड़ा सा बाहर थी इसलिए उधर साधन कम मिलते थे। सोचिए क्या 8 किलोमीटर की दूरी शहर से बाहर मानी जाएगी। पर हां वह जगह ऐसी थी कि घंण्टों बस के लिए खड़ा रहना पड़ता था। और बहुत कम ऑटो टेक्सी चलती थी। टैक्सी लेने का मतलब था आने और जाने दोनों तरफ का किराया देना। शहर से अपने घर तक जाने के लिए लगभग सौ रुपया यह 200 रूपए मांगते थे। अगर आप बेवक्त मतलब ऐसे समय में जब आपकी मजबूरी हो तो उस मजबूरी का टैक्सी वाले भरपूर फायदा उठाते थे। पता नहीं क्या हुआ पर उस दौरान उस समय ना तो कोई गाड़ी वाहन ले पाए ना ही कोई मेडिकल इंश्योरेंस। 2001 2000 के आसपास मेडिक्लेम लेने के लिए पता नहीं न्यू इंडिया इंशुरेंस करके कोई ऑफिस है वहां गए थे। वहां फॉर्म वगैरह भर कर आ गए घर। उन्होंने तरह-तरह के कागज मांगे जोकि तुरंत तो हम दे नहीं सकते थे इसलिए वापस आ गए। उसमें पता नहीं बहुत सस्ता प्रीमियम था। करते करते वह भी रह ही गया।10 साल बीते एक दो बार उस ऑफिस गए भी तो उसने कहा कि वह जो पुराना फॉर्म भरा हुआ था वह लेकर आईए हम कुछ करते हैं। फिर अचानक बीच में लापरवाही की वजह से कुछ भी नहीं हुआ।

2008 में तब सुना कि टाटा नैनो बन गई है दुनिया की सबसे सस्ती गाड़ी। लगा बहुत अच्छा शुभ अवसर हाथ लगा है चलो गाड़ी ले लेते हैं। हमारी मंशा थी कि यह तो पूर्णतः भारतीय उत्पाद है तो इसको तो हर भारतीय को खरीदना चाहिए। परंतु जैसे ही उसके बारे में खबर फैलने लगी और वह खबर हमारे घर में भी आ गई। हुआ यूं क्योंकि उसको कहा जाता था दुनिया की सबसे सस्ती गाड़ी इसलिए उसके ऊपर गरीबों की कार का तमगा लगा दिया गया। अब यह बात हमारी पत्नी के दिलो-दिमाग पर छा गई कि क्या गाड़ी खरीद रहे हो? गरीबों की गाड़ी क्यों खरीद रहे हो? लख टकिया कार कहा जाता था टाटा नैनो को। प्रोग्राम हमने टेलीविजन पर देखा था जिसमें की रतन टाटा जी टाटा नैनो में बैठकर मंच पर आए थे और उन्होंने बोला था promise is a promise  प्रॉमिस इस ए प्रॉमिस। एडवांस बुकिंग शुरु हो गई थी ₹2000 में। हमने बहुत ट्राई करा लेकिन सफलता हासिल नहीं हुई। घर में कोई राजी नहीं हुआ।

करते करते बात आई गई हो गई और आज 2018 हो गया है आज तक गाड़ी नहीं खरीद पाए हैं।

जैसे जैसे लड़का बड़ा हो रहा है वैसे वैसे उसकी चाह भी बडी हो रही है।

हमने कई बार कहा कि मारुति ऑल्टो ले लेते हैं वह तो बेस्ट सेलर गाड़ी है भारत की। तो वह कहता है कि वह भी कोई गाड़ी है। टक्कर होने पर पिचक जाएगी। इस पर क्या जवाब दें हम? ऐसे तो कोई भी कार टक्कर खाएगी तो पिचक जाएगी। यह बात तुम को समझ में क्यों नहीं आती है। अब बारहवी क्लास के बाद कहीं ना कहीं तो एडमिशन लेना होगा। भारत में बिना पैसे के कहीं एडमिशन होता है? किसी कॉलेज में किसी भी हायर एजुकेशन उच्च शिक्षा में बिना पैसे के एडमिशन मिलता है क्या?  हम तो सुनते आए हैं कि मेडिकल की सीट के लिए 30 लाख 40 लाख मांगते हैं कॉलेज वाले। ऐसे ही लगता है  इन्जीनियरिगं कोर्स के लिए।

एजुकेशन महंगी हो चुकी है (शिक्षा शब्द चूंकि क्लिष्ट हिन्दी मानी जाने लगा है इसलिए एजुकेशन शब्द लोग यूज करने लगे हैं)  अब 2018 के हिसाब से तो यह रकम बहुत बड़ी हो गई होगी। कहां से देंगे इतने पैसे? इसलिए हमने कई बार समझाया कि थोड़ा पैसा बचा लेते हैं और अब तो टाटा नैनो दो लाख की आती है या फिर मारूति ऑल्टो k10 ले लेते हैं और लोन ले लेंगे।

तो वे लोग कहते हैं कि यह कौन खरीदता है? कोई ढंग की कार खरीदो? जहाँ तक हमारे समझ मे बात आई है आज कि वे लोग टाटा जेस्ट या टिगोर टियागो जैसी कार पर सहमत हो रहे है। परन्तु यह भी हमारे लक्ष्य से अधिक है। मैने कहा था कि3 या 4 लाख से अधिक नही खर्च करेगें कार के लिए। परन अब तो बजट बिगाड़ जाएगा। कई वर्ष पहले से योजना बनानी चाहिए थी। कोई निवेश योजना सोचनी थी? म्यूचुअल फंड आदि कोई योजना मे निवेश करना चाहिए था? उम्र कम होने पर एग्रेसिव स्कीम जैसे कि इक्विटी फंड मे निवेश करनाचाहिए था? हमे पता थी यह बात पर पता नही क्यूं हमसे नहीं हुआ? पारंपरिक सोच मानसिकता हावी रही। सुनते धेनु बचपन में कि जैन साहब शेयर बाजार मे भी निवेश करते थे और उन्हे घाटा हुआ। ऐसे बाजार मे निवेश खतरों से भरा होता है। हर्षद मेहता केस हुआ था। पर जीवन मे पूंजी निवेश आवश्यक होता है। जमीन जायदाद मे और सोने मेह निवेश पारंपरिक रूप से अच्छा माना जाता था। पर उसके लिए हाथ मे बडी पूंजी होनी चाहिए। अब सबका तोड आगया म्यूचुअल फंड। इसमे भी पूरी योजना तथा लम्बी अवधि या लम्बेसमय के लिए निवेश करना चाहिए। हमने किया होता तो गाडी कार मैडिकल इंश्योरेंस मेडिक्लेम आदि होता 20 वर्ष की नौकरी के बाद।

so mantra is to start early. Start saving whatever you can. Just take first step forward.

#Men in #Dhoti; Is it not a #menswear? why #shorts?

Swayamkatha

images (95)Why men/boys prefer to wear Shorts (pants)? Any reasons?

I was little bit taken aback when i saw most of the young newly married couples coming to the city for honeymoon and wear such cloths which they could never dare to wear back at their homes? Idea is solely to couple-wedding-honeymoon-shoot-mauritius-india-indian-hotel-mauritius-best-photographer-7.jpgcompare Indian Vs West?

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He definitely looks like a casual tourist, wearing casuals as he would say? 20171125_160550-1.jpgbut then he is wearing this short pant just with a presumed perception of being upmarket? belonging to  Nouveau riche group of middle upper class?

There is also a trend among the newly educated lot or high flying group that wearing this type of casual cloths is symbol of status?    

I mean very idea of wearing such types of cloth i don’t like.

When i see women kept fully covered and men standing with them are in shorts? i thought…

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#Health Care System vis a vis #Urban #Rural and #Medicine systems #HealthCareSystem

#rural #urban divide in #Health

Swayamkatha

A question always arises in mind whether public health system is better or private? I think such question if arises then it is in itself a proof that how much faith we have in public health system? But more often than not we have no other option but to go to public health system.
This debate is going on for very long. I suppose that this will continue for a long period of time. Question always arises whether government provide better health care facilities or private hospitals. All India estimates (in 2014) of rural areas indicated that private hospitals were preferred. Why? Since more number of cases were hospitalized in private hospitals that in public hospitals. Cases 581 per thousands were hospitalised in private hospital whereas 419 in public hospital. Similarly in urban areas 680 per thousand cases hospitalized in private hospitals and only 320 in public or government hospital.

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